The Prevalence of Sexual and Domestic Violence within the LGBT+ Community.

During October’s National Domestic Violence Awareness Month especially, 180 Turning Lives Around calls upon our community to become informed about the prevalence of sexual and domestic violence within the LGBT+ community. In fact, this Thursday, October 11 marks the 30th Anniversary of National Coming Out Day. As a result of the 500,000 person March on Washington DC for Lesbian and Gay Rights 30 years ago, Coming Out Day was created by two activists, Rob Eichberg and Jean O’Leary. They realized that coming out is a basic tool for progress. The day encourages all LGBT+ people and their allies to stand proud of who they are and to fight for a more equal tomorrow.
We at 180, cultivate a safe, confidential, and empowering environment for the unique needs of LGBTQ+ victims of sexual and domestic violence. Through providing free supportive services including confidential 24/7 hotlines, trained advocates who assist victims by providing emotional support and resources, as well as a safe house, and a Family Justice Center, LGBT+ victims will be given the guidance and care they need. Often times LGBTQ+ people are afraid to come out for a variety of reasons. They may fear what employers, friends, family or their places of worship might think of who they are. People who are in abusive relationships find themselves further isolated. Abusers will use this fear to take power and control over their partners. Victims often feel at a loss as to where to go for help.
Abusive partners in LGBT+ relationships exhibit the same behaviors as abusive partners in heterosexual relationships – to gain and maintain power and control through physical, sexual, verbal abuse and/or financial control and isolation. However, in LGBT+ relationships, partners who abuse may exploit societal factors that compound the complex issues a survivor faces in making safety decisions or how to leave an abusive relationship. There are many barriers to reporting domestic violence and sexual violence that can include: a victim feeling like they are already under attack for their sexual orientation/sexual identity, threats of being outed, fear that their HIV status may be exposed, the belief that the abuse was their fault, fear of not being taken seriously or believed because of their sexuality, child custody/visitation issues and concern that providers are not informed of issues that are unique to the LGBT+ community. 180 advocates against this and all forms of oppression and we continuously look to build safety for all survivors.
180 Turning Lives Around is passionate about providing an extensive array of services for individuals affected by sexual and domestic violence, regardless of sexual identity, gender, or sexual orientation. Through on-going professional development, staying current on LGBT+ healthcare concerns, and conducting a continuous dialogue withLGBT+ community leaders, 180 cultivates a safe, confidential, and empowering environment for all victims of sexual and domestic violence.
I encourage you to visit our website to learn more about 180 and all of our programs and services. For more information on National Coming Out Day please visit: https://www.hrc.org/resources/national-coming-out-day Additionally, if you would like to learn even more, the Human Rights Campaign has excellent resources regarding violence in the LGBT+ community.
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

A Message from 180’s Executive Director

As you know, sexual assault has been in the news over the past many weeks, this time during the confirmation hearings for Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh.  While we are not going to weigh in on the political tenor of the hearings, we do know that survivors of sexual assault in our community have been reaching out to 180 as the hearings have triggered memories of their own sexual assault.
Every time sexual assault and rape is in the headlines, it opens up a national conversation about these crimes. From kitchen tables to offices, sometimes heated discussions occur, and more and more survivors courageously come forward with their own stories of rape and assault.
At 180, we’ve been working with sexual assault survivors for over 42 years, and here are some things we know from national crime victim data:
—- One out of six women and one out of thirty-three men report being victims of attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.
—- Females ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.
—- Law enforcement officials recognize that sexual assaults/rapes are among the most under-reported crimes, and false reports are rare.
—- Survivors often tell no one about their assault.
—- Trauma can affect survivor’s for years after the assault.
—- These crimes are often not witnessed by others.
If you are a survivor of sexual assault or know someone who is suffering with the after-effects of an assault, you should know that help is available 24/7 by calling our hotline: 1-888-264-RAPE.
Please see our website www.180nj.org for more information about our comprehensive services for sexual assault survivors, to learn about New Jersey’s Sexual Violence Protection Order, and what to do if you are assaulted, as well as how to support someone you know who shares their experience of a sexual assault with you.
We hope that shining a light on the crime of sexual assault and rape will lead to a greater understanding that we all need to do more in order to stop these crimes from occurring. 180 will continue to help survivors heal and fight for justice, and advocate for a society where these crimes no longer take place.
Thank you.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

180 Turning Lives Around + New Jersey Coalition to End Sexual Assault (NJCASA) – Hereos for A Safer Garden State!

Join “Team 180” and hundreds of activists, allies, community members and heroes as we walk towards safer communities in the Garden State! The New Jersey Coalition to End Sexual Assault (NJCASA) is hosting this event as a way to support statewide social change efforts to ensure survivors are supported and affirmed. Together 180 Turning Lives Around stands with NJCASA! 180 will have a table at this event – come check-in and visit us before the event gets started! Our Team Captain is Sue Levine, Program Coordinator, Victim Support Services and can be reached at SusanL@180nj.org

Check-in begins at 8:00 AM
in Asbury Park at Convention Hall
(located at corner of 5th and Ocean Avenue)
Event begins at 9:00 AM

Please register to be part of “Team 180” here:
(click icon above to register)

Annual Celebration 2018 A Terrific Success

 


 

Dear Friends of 180,

Thank you for making 180’s Annual Celebration a terrific success! What a wonderful night for 180 Turning Lives Around! With a sold-out room filled with outstanding supporters and overflowing hearts, the evening raised over $330,000 to support 180’s life-saving mission.

Keynoting the event was First Lady Tammy Murphy who spoke about her involvement with 180 over the last 16 years. She discussed the critical need for 180 services, as on average, two sexual assault survivors come forward to 180 each and every day. It was an honor for me to be joined by former 180 Board President, now Governor, Philip D. Murphy who spoke movingly about Honoree Dorothea Bongiovi and her commitment to nurturing body and soul through the work of the JBJ Soul Kitchen. Noted was Dorothea’s special support of 180 and our mission including: helping to build 180’s new safe house, providing meals to families and hosting our annual community event at the Soul Kitchen which brings awareness to the issue of domestic violence.

Speaking on behalf of Honoree Impact 100 Jersey Coast, Deirdre Spiropoulos joined with co-founder Heather Burke to highlight the special synergy that their organization and 180 Turning Lives Around shares. Both 180 and Impact 100 Jersey Coast began with a small group of women who decided to make a difference in their community. With the award of Impact’s inaugural grant, 180 opened the Family Justice Center of Monmouth County, a one-stop shop for critical services needed by victims of domestic and sexual violence.

Many of the guests wore denim to highlight April’s National Sexual Assault Awareness month and Denim Day (click here to learn more). Board President, Bob Fouratt opened the evening’s program by welcoming guests and thanking Presenting Sponsor, Carol Stillwell and Stillwell-Hansen, Inc., and Community Hero Sponsor, Verizon. Major event sponsors included Crum & Forster, Rick and Ana Blank and BTIG, The Diaco Family, The Sahakian Family and The Hovnanian Foundation (see below for complete sponsor listing).

Many thanks to all of our guests and sponsors, Event Chair Siran Sahakian and all Committee Members, Board, staff and volunteers. We are so grateful to you for your dedication which makes our work possible.

Sincerely,

Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

PS: Did you know that your employer may match your personal gift to 180? Many of our donors have contacted their employer and already this has raised an additional $25,000 for 180! Please let us know if you have any questions and thank you again for your support!

 

Photos compliments of Aimee Burns

Just A Few Important Reasons to Support 180 and our Sexual Violence Programs

1. On average rape survivors come forward to 180 each day seeking counseling and other services – over 70 per month.

2. In the past 3 months, over 213 sexual assaults have been disclosed to 180 counselors. Funds raised through 180’s Annual Celebration ensure there is a counselor available for each phone call 24 hours a day, seven days per week. 

3. 180’s rape hotline calls are up 15% since last year with many being triggered by the #MeToo movement. More victims need more services and 180 needs more funding to keep up with the increase.

4. 3,000 domestic and sexual violence phone calls have been received since July 2017 – 50% of which have been emergency/crisis calls.

5. Teens under the age of 18 comprise over 20% of callers – almost all female. 180’s caring response to teens involve counselors especially trained and licensed in this area.180’s 2nd Floor Youth Helpline (2NDFLOOR), and our school based educational and outreach program, ensure that young victims have a place to disclose and receive the help they need.

6. The NJ State Uniform Crime Report for 2015 (last year available currently) indicates only 15 police reported sexual assaults in Monmouth County yet 180 Turning Lives Around had 103 rapesreported to us that same year.

7. Sexual assault is the most under-reported crime, yet in women and 1 in 71 men will be sexually assaulted at some point in their lives.

8. In the past 12 months, our school outreach program related to safe dates and healthy relationships conducted over 138 presentations and workshops reaching over 3,033 students throughout Monmouth County.

9. Over 12,000 hours of counseling and support were provided by trained staff last year for our statewide youth helpline,
2NDFLOOR. The most popular topics discussed were dating and relationships as well as sex and sexuality.

10. Our phones rang 16,500 times and staff texted over 3,500 times. 2NDFLOOR’s website saw over 72,000 page views.

 Please RSVP HERE.

 
 

A message from our Executive Director: Say #MeToo and RSVP Today


Dear Friends of 180,
Our largest fundraising event of the year is one week away and on behalf of the 180 Board of Trustees, I invite you to participate. Please RSVP HERE. This year’s Annual Celebration on April 20th brings even more attention to the #MeToo movement and survivor empowerment. Funds raised will support 180’s Sexual Assault programs. As you may know, 180 serves every town and every resident who may need us in Monmouth County. We are a community agency and we rely on community support to fulfill our mission.
 
Already this year, we have answered over 3,000 hotline calls, responded with care and compassion to survivors of rape, meeting them at hospital emergency rooms and 53 local police stations. We have counseled men, women and children whose past has been traumatized by sexual assault and abuse. Nearly 200 volunteers work alongside our dedicated and professional staff throughout all of our programs to assist survivors, and so we can be there in a moment’s notice.
Click the icon to make your gift via 180’s safe and secure website. All gifts are 100% tax-deductible.
Thank you for considering joining us on April 20 at The Riverhouse, Rumson Country Club. Your participation in events like this enable us to carry out our mission. If you can’t attend, please show your support by designating a special gift to support victim empowerment. Your participation will help us answer the call in a victim’s moment of crisis. Your support at any level makes a difference!
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around

P.S: follow the link here to learn more about our Annual Celebration and the exciting Live Auction Items up for bid! https://180nj.org/rsvp-reminder-and-live-auction-preview/

Thank you to our generous sponsors:

 

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

Although April is Nationally known as Sexual Assault Awareness Month, here at 180 Turning Lives Around we are responding and caring for victims 24-hours a day, 365 days a year. 180 empowers survivors and families affected by domestic violence and sexual assault to find the courage and strength to turn their lives around. We do this through 24/7 helplines and counseling, legal advocacy, emergency shelter and transitional housing, art, play and music therapy. Our staff and volunteers are found in the courts, in all five area hospital emergency rooms, and in all 53 municipal police departments.

During the month of April, we are taking part in a variety of activities in honor of April’s Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  Please consider joining 180 at any one or more of the following events:
 
April 4, 9:30
Waterwitch Club, Highlands
180 to attend SOAR Women’s Symposium and host outreach and education table regarding sexual assault and domestic violence programs.
 
April 11, 10:00 AM
Monmouth University, West Long Branch, NJ
180 Turning Lives Around joins Monmouth University students and faculty in the program “Walk A Mile In Her Shoes” – an awareness event for sexual assault and gender violence.
 
April 11, 10:30 AM
Hugh Justice Center, Trenton, NJ
180 Staff will be in attendance at the New Jersey Crime Victim’s Right’s Week Ceremony, at the Hughes Justice Center, Trenton, NJ.
 
April 11, 6:30 PM
Springwood Park, Asbury Park
180 Staff is participating at the Crime Victim’s Rights Candlelight Vigil, promoting awareness about services to crime victims, at Springwood Park in Asbury Park. The Mercy Center is recognizing 180’s Amanda’s Easel Program Coordinator Cindi Westendorf, and her team, at the event.
 
April 12, 10:00AM
Pollack Theater, Monmouth University 
180 joins the New Jersey Coalition against Human Trafficking and Monmouth University for the screening of the documentary, “I Am Jane Doe”.
 
April 13, 10:00 AM
Pollack Theater, Monmouth University
180 joins the Monmouth County Prosecutor in the presentation of “Get Real About Sex, Consent, and Violence” Jeffrey Bucholtz from We End Violence is the guest speaker. The event is sponsored by the County Prosecutor’s Association of NJ and the NJ Association of Victim Witness Coordinators. Pollack Theater.
 
April 20 7:00 PM 
Riverhouse, Rumson Country Club
180’s Annual Celebration is focused on sexual assault and the #Me Too movement with funds raised supporting 180’s sexual violence programs. Guests to join 180 in solidarity by wearing denim, the awareness color for sexual assault awareness.
 
April, Date TBD
US Naval Weapon Station Earle, Colts Neck
180 joins US Naval Weapon Station Earle in “The Clothes Line Project” – an awareness and outreach event for Earle community.
 
May 5, 8:00AM
Asbury Park Boardwalk
New Jersey Coalition to End Sexual Assault will host their annual 5K Run in Asbury Park. 180 Sexual Violence Program staff has a table set up for outreach and a team of 180 staff/volunteers will be participating in the race.

As always, if you or someone you know is in need of 180’s Sexual Violence Services, including supportive counseling for survivors – both adult and teen, and regardless of when the assault occurred, we are here for you. 180 can assist with advocacy and accompaniment through medical, police and legal proceedings and our caring and professional staff will guide survivors in trauma recovery in a safe, supportive and confidential environment. Our 24-hour Sexual Violence Hotline is confidential and anonymous: 1.888.264.RAPE.

Please visit us at www.180nj.org and follow us on and FacebookInstagram and Twitter for updates on 180’s various initiatives and work throughout the Monmouth County community.

RSVP Reminder and Live Auction Preview

Now is the time to RSVP for 180’s Annual Celebration – an event this year which will highlight the #MeToo movement during April’s Sexual Assault Awareness month.
Please join us as we honor our two very deserving recipients:
Impact 100 Jersey Coast accepting, Deirdre Spiropoulos and 
Heather Burke and The Jon Bon Jovi Soul Kitchen accepting, Dorothea Bongiovi

The Bobby Bandiera Band will set the stage for an evening to remember and these Live Auction items are sure to please!

PARTY LIKE A ROCKSTAR
Dorothea and Jon are picking concert seats especially for you!  This will be an amazing night with our Monmouth County neighbor, Jon Bon Jovi! Experience includes behind the scenes tour with a VIP Host and an amazing VIP Preshow Reception in the lounge with food, appetizers, beverages and more!

ESPERANZA

Experience this amazing resort in Cabo overlooking the Sea of Cortez. A sophisticated retreat on the shores of Baja, Esperanza offers an incomparable natural setting on 17 lush acres. Winner and guests will enjoy an entire week in this world-class vacation retreat. This fabulous suite includes a gorgeous open air living room with two balconies, kitchen, 3 bedroom/3 king beds and 3 full baths. Resort has a spectacular spa, multiple infinity pools, work out facilities and restaurants on the property.

SPRINGSTEEN ON BROADWAY
Two special VIP tickets at a performance date of your choice (between now and December 2018) will have you cheering Bruuuuuuce! You select any Friday or Saturday night….it will be an experience you won’t forget. Grab your date, the limo is on the way – it’s time to get ready for Springsteen on Broadway! Thank you Bruce and Patti!


180 Turning Lives Around extends our congratulations to Time Magazine Person of the Year: The Silence Breakers

At 180 Turning Lives Around, we are here 24-hours a day, seven days a week, if you, or someone you know, wants to break the silence and receive safe, confidential and supportive services. Our caring and professionally trained staff are available by reaching out to: 1.888.264.RAPE.
To support 180’s Sexual Violence Programs, click HERE

Help 180 Answer The Call

As you probably already know, #GivingTuesday is a global day of giving fueled by the power of social media and collaboration. #GivingTuesday kicks off the charitable season, when many focus on their holiday and end-of-year giving. 
All gifts received this #GivingTuesday (November 28, 2017) will support one of our most highly utilized programs – our 24 hour Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotlines. The hotlines are always available and are staffed by highly trained professionals in the field of domestic and sexual violence and human traficking. Everyday, 180 is answering calls and helping to guide victims to safety. Already this year, we have answered 2,805 hotline calls. The hotlines are often the entryway into additional agency services including: emergency shelter at our safe house, counseling, legal and court advocacy, and programs for children such as our Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapy program.
Please donate in honor of #GivingTuesday and your gift will help us answer the call in a victim’s moment of crisis. Your support at any level makes a difference!