For help developing a personalized safety plan for you and your children, call our Domestic Violence Hotline at 888-843-9262.
Below is a list of safety recommendations that many domestic violence agencies are sharing with their community in light of COVID-19 and domestic violence:
- If you or your family members are in immediate danger, call 911
- Keep your phone charged and on you at all times. Know where your charger is, or keep it stored in an easy-to-grab go-bag. Keep a few safe phone numbers written down on paper in your car or go-bag in case you don’t have your phone with you.
- Remember to turn off your phone (and other devices) and GPS when leaving for safety.
- Turn off childrens’ phones or devices that have GPS.
- Identify safe ways out of each room, including windows if necessary. Make sure that these pathways are cleared.
- When violence occurs, lead your abuser to a safe room that has an exit path. Avoid rooms that have items that could be used as weapons (kitchens, garages), avoid rooms that have lots of hard surfaces (kitchens, bathrooms), and try to avoid rooms that only have one exit that can be blocked (second-story bedrooms, closets).
- Identify a code word to use with children so they know to leave the room/home and go to a trusted neighbor. Plan a code word with trusted friends or family outside of the home that indicates you are in danger and need help.
- Identify transportation options. Keep your car’s gas tank full, and back in to your parking spot/driveway so that it’s easier to drive away. Identify a safe spot for your keys. Make plans with a trusted person who can pick you up.
- Pack a go-bag. Possible items to include: extra sets of clothing for you and your children; items for any pets you will take with you, copies of important documents and/or IDs, medications, an extra set of keys, a written list of safe phone numbers, and extra cash in case your partner cuts off your credit cards or phone pay apps. Important documents include a copy of any restraining orders, medical records, and documentation of abuse. Keep the go-bag in a hidden but easy to reach location.
- Document any abuse, including harassment or stalking. Take screenshots, make notes, and store these in a safe place. If you feel comfortable, report to police.
- As people move to using technology more in place of physical interaction, please practice tech safety. Protect your passwords, or change them if your abuser has access to them. Make your accounts as private as possible. Assume that any communication with your abuser can be documented by them and used against you. Visit techsafety.org for additional safety tips.
- Keep yourself and others safe by following the latest health guidelines and recommendations. This includes wiping down frequently used surfaces vigorously and washing your hands often. For up-to-date information visit www.cdc.gov, or www.nj.gov/health.
180 Turning Lives Around’s hotlines all remain available 24/7 to help those in crisis and to answer any questions you may have. Domestic Violence: (888) 843-9262 | Sexual Violence: (888) 264-7273 | 2NDFLOOR® Youth: (888) 222-2228 Deaf and Hard of Hearing Text Available: (732) 977-2766
180 Turning Lives Around presents:
“The Power of Journaling”
An interactive, free workshop for victim-survivors of domestic and/or sexual violence, and also for those who may be concerned about these issues.
Come learn how to use writing as a self-healing tool in a supportive environment with Guest Presenter: Victoria Perry and 180’s Janet Lee, LCSW. Find out simple ways to use journaling to:
- Clarify thoughts and feelings
- Gain insights and perspectives
- Create personal affirmations
- Reduce negative self-talk
Feel free to bring a friend! All participants will receive a personal journal and a handout on creative journaling!
Date: Thursday, September 26th
Time: 6:00—7:30 p.m.
Location: 180 Turning Lives Around, Hazlet, NJ 07730
RSVP: Please call Janet at: (732) 264-4360 ext. 4281
Pre-registration required. Call soon—workshops have limited space.
Feel free to bring a friend, but please let us know prior to the workshop so we have enough room for everyone.
180 Turning Lives Around
“Essential Oils and Wellness”
An informative, free workshop for victim-survivors of domestic and sexual violence with 180’s Lauren Lormel, LCSW.
Come learn about the use of Therapeutic Grade Essential Oils for depression, anxiety, stress management and overall well-being. Gain Information on various methods of applications. Get recipes and opportunity to sample Lavender, Peppermint Cedarwood, Oregano, Francincense, Citrus Oils, Ylang Ylang and Rosemary.
Date: Tuesday, September 17
Time: 5:30 PM—7:00 PM
Location: 180 Turning Lives Around, Hazlet, NJ 07730
RSVP: Please call Elisse at: (732) 264-4360 ext. 4282, Workshops have limited space.
Become A Volunteer Advocate for Victims of Domestic Violence:
Applications Are Available for Next Training Course
You can be the change you want to see in the world by joining 180’s life-saving and life-changing mission today. 180 Turning Lives Around (180), a private non-profit organization in Monmouth County, continues to provide confidential support and advocacy to victims of domestic violence in the aftermath of a highly emotional and traumatic experience with the assistance of its dedicated response team volunteers. 180 will be conducting a 40-hour mandatory training course for new Domestic Violence Response Team (DVRT) Victim Advocates, April 29th-May 23rd, Mondays/Wednesdays/Thursdays, 6:00pm-9:30pm, in the courtroom at Hazlet Police Headquarters, 255 Middle Road in Hazlet. Training will be provided to successful applicants.
180’s volunteer DVRT Advocates are civilian members of the community who work collaboratively with law enforcement to provide support, information, and resources to victims of domestic violence at police headquarters. Advocates also discuss with victims safety planning and their legal rights in regard to obtaining a Temporary Restraining Order. By providing empathy and a crucial perspective of the situation, these specially-trained advocates help to empower victims to make informed decisions for themselves and their families.
Basic requirements for volunteers to apply include that they must be eighteen years of age or older, have access to reliable transportation, possess a valid driver’s license, be willing to serve on an on-call shift basis, participate in an interview process, submit to background investigations and fingerprinting, and successfully complete the mandatory training. The police departments and 180 are committed to culturally and socially diverse teams to better serve the community. Bi-lingual capability is helpful. Prior knowledge of domestic violence is not required. The identities of the DVRT volunteers are kept anonymous. For an application or additional information, please contact Tina Morgan, Assistant Coordinator, Victim Support Program, at email@example.com or 732 264-4360, Ext. 4272. Please mention the town where you reside. Deadline to apply is April 19th. Applications are also available for download at https://180nj.org/give-help/volunteering/domestic-violence-response-team-advocate/
The free, confidential service of the DVRT program is available for victims of domestic violence, 24-hours a day, 7-days a week, at police departments in Monmouth County.
For forty-three years, 180 Turning Lives Around has been dedicated to providing emergency safe housing, counseling, support, prevention, education, and advocacy in Monmouth County for individuals and families affected by domestic violence, sexual violence, and human trafficking. If you, or someone you know, is in need of assistance, please call the 180 Turning Lives Around 24/7 Confidential Hotline at 732-264-4111 or 888-843-9262. Visit www.180nj.org for more information. In an emergency, dial 9-1-1.
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