It takes an immense amount of courage to make the decision to leave an abusive situation during any day of the year – but consider the obstacles that the pandemic has brought and a difficult situation is only exacerbated.For all of our courageous Moms -those in the Safe House and those hundreds of others in Monmouth County who are receiving our supportive services, please consider a donation to 180 this Mother’s Day weekend. You can donate online at: https://180nj.org/give-help/mothers-day-donations/ or you can donate through your mobile device by texting 180MOMS to 41-444. Your generosity enables us to change lives and allows us to keep our life-saving programs mobilized throughout the pandemic.
For help developing a personalized safety plan for you and your children, call our Domestic Violence Hotline at 888-843-9262.
Below is a list of safety recommendations that many domestic violence agencies are sharing with their community in light of COVID-19 and domestic violence:
- If you or your family members are in immediate danger, call 911
- Keep your phone charged and on you at all times. Know where your charger is, or keep it stored in an easy-to-grab go-bag. Keep a few safe phone numbers written down on paper in your car or go-bag in case you don’t have your phone with you.
- Remember to turn off your phone (and other devices) and GPS when leaving for safety.
- Turn off childrens’ phones or devices that have GPS.
- Identify safe ways out of each room, including windows if necessary. Make sure that these pathways are cleared.
- When violence occurs, lead your abuser to a safe room that has an exit path. Avoid rooms that have items that could be used as weapons (kitchens, garages), avoid rooms that have lots of hard surfaces (kitchens, bathrooms), and try to avoid rooms that only have one exit that can be blocked (second-story bedrooms, closets).
- Identify a code word to use with children so they know to leave the room/home and go to a trusted neighbor. Plan a code word with trusted friends or family outside of the home that indicates you are in danger and need help.
- Identify transportation options. Keep your car’s gas tank full, and back in to your parking spot/driveway so that it’s easier to drive away. Identify a safe spot for your keys. Make plans with a trusted person who can pick you up.
- Pack a go-bag. Possible items to include: extra sets of clothing for you and your children; items for any pets you will take with you, copies of important documents and/or IDs, medications, an extra set of keys, a written list of safe phone numbers, and extra cash in case your partner cuts off your credit cards or phone pay apps. Important documents include a copy of any restraining orders, medical records, and documentation of abuse. Keep the go-bag in a hidden but easy to reach location.
- Document any abuse, including harassment or stalking. Take screenshots, make notes, and store these in a safe place. If you feel comfortable, report to police.
- As people move to using technology more in place of physical interaction, please practice tech safety. Protect your passwords, or change them if your abuser has access to them. Make your accounts as private as possible. Assume that any communication with your abuser can be documented by them and used against you. Visit techsafety.org for additional safety tips.
- Keep yourself and others safe by following the latest health guidelines and recommendations. This includes wiping down frequently used surfaces vigorously and washing your hands often. For up-to-date information visit www.cdc.gov, or www.nj.gov/health.
180 Turning Lives Around’s hotlines all remain available 24/7 to help those in crisis and to answer any questions you may have. Domestic Violence: (888) 843-9262 | Sexual Violence: (888) 264-7273 | 2NDFLOOR® Youth: (888) 222-2228 Deaf and Hard of Hearing Text Available: (732) 977-2766
Download the “Consent” informational sheet and have the conversation with your teen today.
We know that the most dangerous time for a victim is when that person is trying to leave. It is during this time that a victim is at the highest risk of severe injury or homicide than at any other time during the relationship. For any Monmouth County victim of domestic violence, and we know that there are thousands of you out there today, please know that 180 Turning Lives Around is here to work with you to develop a safety plan for you and your children, and to design a path to a life free from abuse and harm.
Volunteer to Assist Victims of Domestic Violence
You can be the change you want to see in the world by joining 180’s life-changing mission today. 180’s Volunteer Domestic Violence Response Team (DVRT) Advocates are civilian members of the community who work collaboratively with law enforcement to provide confidential support, information, and resources to victims of domestic violence at police headquarters. Advocates also discuss with victims safety planning and their legal rights in regard to obtaining a Temporary Restraining Order. By providing support and crucial perspective of the situation, these specially-trained advocates help to empower victims to make informed decisions for themselves and their families. The identities of the DVRT volunteers are kept anonymous. Prior knowledge of domestic violence is not required. 180 and the police departments are committed to culturally and socially diverse teams to better serve the community. Bi-lingual capability is helpful.
October 1st – 24th
Ocean Township Police Department
399 Monmouth Road, Ocean Township
Basic requirements for volunteers to apply: Must be eighteen-years of age or older, have access to transportation, possess a valid driver’s license, be willing to serve on an on-call shift basis, participate in an interview process, pass background investigations and fingerprinting, successfully complete the mandatory 40-hour training, and attend monthly supervisory meetings.
For more information or to obtain an application contact: Sue Levine, Victim Support Program Coordinator, at email@example.com and 732 264-4360, Ext. 4271, or visit
For forty-three years, 180 Turning Lives Around, a private non-profit organization, has been
dedicated to ending domestic and sexual violence, which affects our community.
180’s Domestic Violence 24/7 Confidential Hotline: 732 264-4111 or 888 843-9262
In an emergency: Dial 911
Definition: Stalking is a pattern of behavior that may cause fear or concern fear for the person who is the focus of the behavior.
Stalking is a crime that frequently predicts and co-occurs with physical and sexual violence. 180 Turning Lives Around can help guide you and give you the tools you need to respond to the crime of stalking. Stalkers use many tactics including: Approaching the victim or showing up in places when the victim didn’t want them to be there; making unwanted telephone calls;leaving the victim unwanted messages (text or voice); watching or following the victim from a distance, or spying on the victim with a listening device, camera, or GPS.
Common staking behaviors include:
- Repeated calls, text messages, e-mails, or posts via social media
- Following the victim or showing up where they are (e.g., near home, work, school, or other places the victim might frequent)
- Using technology to track, find out and/or disseminate personal information about the victim
- Threatening to hurt the victim and/or people they care about
Please reach out to us to learn more or talk about your experience, our Hotline is anonymous and confidential: 1-888-843-9262
- Urge you or demand that you quit your job or prevent you from working?
- Stalk or harass you at work?
- Refuse to give you access to bank accounts and hide or keep assets from you?
- Give you a set amount of money to spend and no more?
- Constantly question purchases you make and demand to see receipts?
- Make financial decisions without consulting you?
- Steal your identity or file fraudulent tax returns with your name attached to them?
- Sell property that was yours?
- File false insurance claims with your name on them?
- Not pay child support so you can’t afford rent, food, and other needed items?
- Force you to open lines of credit?