The Moms of 180

Recently, a young Mom became quarantined with her abuser during the early weeks of the pandemic. She told us that so many times she had considered running out the front door into her neighborhood for help, but when she looked outside, the streets were empty. Inside her home, the stress of the pandemic, looming unemployment and financial worries, only intensified an already abusive situation. She worried for her children and knew she ultimately needed to leave. She visited the 180 website in the early hours of a Saturday morning while everyone in her house slept. Her heart raced and she hoped that he would not find her looking up our information. She quickly cleared her search history and found a way to call our hotline when he left the house for groceries. Eventually, she and her three children and their pet dog, were able to leave. They are all now with 180 at our Safe House. She will spend Mother’s Day with us this Sunday. Thanks to a few generous donors from our local community, all of our Moms at the Safe House will be receiving gift cards, chocolates, new pajamas, robes and slippers.
It takes an immense amount of courage to make the decision to leave an abusive situation during any day of the year – but consider the obstacles that the pandemic has brought and a difficult situation is only exacerbated.
For all of our courageous Moms -those in the Safe House and those hundreds of others in Monmouth County who are receiving our supportive services, please consider a donation to 180 this Mother’s Day weekend. You can donate online at: https://180nj.org/give-help/mothers-day-donations/ or you can donate through your mobile device by texting 180MOMS to 41-444. Your generosity enables us to change lives and allows us to keep our life-saving programs mobilized throughout the pandemic.
Thank you so much for your support and belief in our mission. We wish each of you a wonderful, safe and peaceful Mother’s Day with your family.

Home with your abuser during COVID-19? Read these safety tips. 180 is here for you. 

For help developing a personalized safety plan for you and your children, call our Domestic Violence Hotline at 888-843-9262. 

Below is a list of safety recommendations that many domestic violence agencies are sharing with their community in light of COVID-19 and domestic violence:

  • If you or your family members are in immediate danger, call 911
  • Keep your phone charged and on you at all times. Know where your charger is, or keep it stored in an easy-to-grab go-bag. Keep a few safe phone numbers written down on paper in your car or go-bag in case you don’t have your phone with you.
  • Remember to turn off your phone (and other devices) and GPS when leaving for safety.
  • Turn off childrens’  phones or devices that have GPS.
  • Identify safe ways out of each room, including windows if necessary. Make sure that these pathways are cleared.
  • When violence occurs, lead your abuser to a safe room that has an exit path. Avoid rooms that have items that could be used as weapons (kitchens, garages), avoid rooms that have lots of hard surfaces (kitchens, bathrooms), and try to avoid rooms that only have one exit that can be blocked (second-story bedrooms, closets).
  • Identify a code word to use with children so they know to leave the room/home and go to a trusted neighbor. Plan a code word with trusted friends or family outside of the home that indicates you are in danger and need help.
  • Identify transportation options. Keep your car’s gas tank full, and back in to your parking spot/driveway so that it’s easier to drive away. Identify a safe spot for your keys. Make plans with a trusted person who can pick you up.
  • Pack a go-bag. Possible items to include: extra sets of clothing for you and your children; items for any pets you will take with you, copies of important documents and/or IDs, medications, an extra set of keys, a written list of safe phone numbers, and extra cash in case your partner cuts off your credit cards or phone pay apps. Important documents include a copy of any restraining orders, medical records, and documentation of abuse. Keep the go-bag in a hidden but easy to reach location.
  • Document any abuse, including harassment or stalking. Take screenshots, make notes, and store these in a safe place. If you feel comfortable, report to police.
  • As people move to using technology more in place of physical interaction, please practice tech safety. Protect your passwords, or change them if your abuser has access to them. Make your accounts as private as possible. Assume that any communication with your abuser can be documented by them and used against you. Visit techsafety.org for additional safety tips.
  • Keep yourself and others safe by following the latest health guidelines and recommendations. This includes wiping down frequently used surfaces vigorously and washing your hands often. For up-to-date information visit www.cdc.gov, or www.nj.gov/health.

180 Turning Lives Around’s hotlines all remain available 24/7 to help those in crisis and to answer any questions you may have. Domestic Violence: (888) 843-9262 | Sexual Violence: (888) 264-7273 | 2NDFLOOR® Youth: (888) 222-2228 Deaf and Hard of Hearing Text Available: (732) 977-2766

Supporting Survivors: never cancelled.

We will never cancel supporting survivors. Recently we had to cancel our Annual Celebration – our largest fundraising event of the year, but we will never cancel supporting survivors. For over forty years, 180 has been supporting survivors, and the coronavirus is not going to stop us.
Our services are needed now more than ever. Sadly we can confidently make this prediction: when family stressors increase, abusers get more abusive, and families are in greater danger. Right now many victims are trapped in their homes with their abusers. Escape plans that had been in progress are now on hold. Even breaking free for a private moment to reach out to our hotline is a frightening challenge. Yet victims are still reaching out to us and we are ready and receiving their calls for help. We also expect that as the “shelter in place” order lifts, we will experience a spike in the number of victims seeking our support and services. We will continue to be ready at a moments notice for anyone who needs our help.
So while our Annual Celebration is cancelled, supporting survivors is never cancelled:
  • Our hotlines are open;
  • Our emergency Safe House is fully operational;
  • Families living in transitional housing are receiving consistent advocacy and frequent check-ins;
  • Our therapists are delivering counseling from safe and secure remote work spaces;
  • We are partnering with our local police departments and our local hospitals to provide a 180 advocate to any resident of Monmouth County who needs our support;
  • We are making sure that anyone who needs a temporary restraining order during this time gets the guidance they need;
  • We are rotating our crisis response team advocates every single day, and making sure that we are prepared to support any victim of sexual assault whether they present at the police station, hospital emergency room, or phone us through our sexual assault hotline.
180 is here for our community. For the most up to date announcements on our programs and services during the pandemic,
To contribute to our mission, please visit: Support 180.

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

Download the “Consent” informational sheet and have the conversation with your teen today.

CONSENT

Sincere Condolences to the Parze Family

Dear Community,
Our hearts have been heavy since Stephanie Parze’s disappearance in October 2019. We feared the most terrible outcome which has been confirmed with today’s news of the discovery of her remains in Old Bridge, NJ. We extend our deepest condolences to the Parze family.
Domestic/dating violence is an insidious epidemic that happens every day, everywhere, without regard to socioeconomic status, race, religion, ethnicity or education. Domestic/dating violence is an under-reported crime, with many victims either too afraid or ashamed to step forward, but authorities estimate that as many as one in every four women and one in seven men will experience domestic violence at some point in their lives. This kind of crime is of particular concern to residents of Monmouth County, which has the fifth highest number of reported domestic violence incidents in the State, with over 4,200 reported offenses each year.
We know that the most dangerous time for a victim is when that person is trying to leave. It is during this time that a victim is at the highest risk of severe injury or homicide than at any other time during the relationship. For any Monmouth County victim of domestic violence, and we know that there are thousands of you out there today, please know that 180 Turning Lives Around is here to work with you to develop a safety plan for you and your children, and to design a path to a life free from abuse and harm.
180 Turning Lives Around (180), is a nonprofit organization dedicated to ending domestic violence and sexual assault in Monmouth County. 180 offers 24-hour hotlines, emergency shelter, family court assistance, counseling, safety planning and trained advocates who accompany survivors at all area police stations and hospitals.
If you or someone you know needs help please reach out to us; calls are anonymous and confidential. We are available 24 hours, 7 days a week: 888-843-9262 or 888-264-RAPE. Additional information is available on our website: www.180nj.org.
Our thoughts are with Mr. and Mrs. Parze and their family.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director

A Soulful Night for 180 at JBJ Soul Kitchen

Dear Friends of 180,
The success of last night’s event only reaffirms what we already know: 180’s model WORKS! 180’s Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapy Program is an important component in promoting healing from domestic violence and encouraging individuals to express and understand their feelings and fears in a safe and nurturing environment. Our survivors and advocates were courageous to share their art and creative expressions with us through this event. Please take a moment to view and appreciate some of their works below. More art images are available to view on our Facebook page. Visions and Voices was truly a night of “soul sharing” and we are grateful to all participants.
Special thanks to our caring friends at the JBJ Soul Kitchen for hosting 180 and for their sincere belief in our mission. The Soul Kitchen is known for nourishing souls in more ways than one! Also, thank you to all guests who literally weathered the storm and joined us in solidarity to recognize 180 during National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
Our programs are successful because they are implemented by 180’s caring staff and counseling team. We thank our therapists and counselors at 180’s Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapy Program for creating the environment which enables expressive arts therapy to be a part of the healing process. For those of you who generously support our work, we thank you and ask that you continue to include 180 Turning Lives Around in your charitable giving. Your generosity makes our mission possible.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director

 

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

 

Dear Friends of 180,
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month and according to national studies, domestic violence directly impacts approximately 1/4 women and 1/7 men, as well as countless family members, friends and communities. These statistics represent our neighbors, friends, colleagues, family members, and possibly even you.
Please consider joining 180 in the month of October especially, or anytime throughout the year, and take an active role against domestic and sexual violence in Monmouth County. Here are some examples of what you can do and how you can show your support and solidarity for survivors and victims in our local community:
  • Join 180 on October 16 for our Annual Community Awareness Event at the JBJ Soul Kitchen, Red Bank (RSVP HERE)
  • Register to volunteer within our agency (link here)
  • Start an initiative to collect items for our Safe House (wish list here)
  • Educate your child about resources to help assist youth such as 180’s 2ND FLOOR YOUTH Call and Text helpline (www.2ndfloor.org)
Additionally, please take a moment to read below our “YEAR IN REVIEW”. While October is designated National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, our agency is hard at work throughout the year to bring strength, courage and solutions to thousands of survivors and their families. Thank you for supporting 180.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
YEAR IN REVIEW
PROVIDING SAFETY, SHELTER AND STRENGTH
SAFE HOUSE PROGRAM
  • 262 women, men, and children served
This program offers an emergency shelter for women, men, and children fleeing domestic violence, sexual violence, and human trafficking. Up to 12 families at a time can be accommodated for a period of 30 to 60 days. Residents are provided with counseling, case management, advocacy, and other supportive services.
HELPING CHILDREN FIND THEIR VOICE
AMANDA’S EASEL PROGRAM
  • 118 parents and children served
  • 1,050 sessions provided
  • 279 groups conducted
This creative arts therapies program is designed to create a support system to help both children and their non-offending parents cope with the life changes precipitated by violence and abuse. The program provides art, play and music therapy that promotes healing by encouraging children to express and understand their feelings and fears in a safe and nurturing environment.
RESPONSIVE AND IMMEDIATE HELP
HOTLINE AND COUNSELING SERVICES
  • 3,208 hotline calls answered
  • 207 new counseling clients
  • 1,047 sessions provided
  • 289 clients assisted by 180’s Domestic Violence Liaison (at DCP&P offices)
A 24/7 DV Hotline provides education, support, resources, and referrals to all callers. Survivors of domestic violence are offered 6 free individual counseling sessions and a variety of free support groups are also offered.
EMPOWERING YOUTH
Group of women with hands together showing unity

2NDFLOOR YOUTH

CALL & TEXT LINE
  • 10,431 phone conversations held
  • 132,158 text messages exchanged
Through phone calls, texting and the message board, this anonymous call and text helpline for New Jersey’s youth helps to provide solutions to a variety of issues including substance abuse, mental health,suicide, cyber-bullying, sex and sexuality, among other topics.
ADVOCATING AND SUPPORTING
Law scales on table. Symbol of justice
FAMILY COURT LIAISON PROGRAM
  • 1,885 domestic violence victims assisted
  • 450 consultations with other non-profit colleagues
This program, located in the Monmouth County Superior Court (Freehold), provides technical assistance along with system advocacy and emotional support to help victims navigate through the legal system and obtain restraining orders and other reliefs.
IMPLEMENTING BEST PRACTICES
FAMILY JUSTICE CENTER
  • 382 clients served
The Family Justice Center provides victims and their families with crisis intervention, legal assistance, and counseling services all in one place. The Family Justice Center model is recognized as a best practice by the U.S. Department of Justice and New Jersey State Office of the Attorney General. The model is proven to save lives due to coordinated services for victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse, and human trafficking.
FOCUSED ON FAMILY
KEEPING FAMILIES TOGETHER
  • 39 families served
This program supports families in the child welfare system and who are experiencing homelessness or housing instability. The program is based on a nationally proven model which uses a multi-disciplinary team approach in coordination with other community partners in the area. The goal of this recovery-oriented program is to help families stay together as they stabilize their lives. 180’s culturally-competent case management team members use client-centered support services along with input from clients to help them keep their goals in sight, while living in a safe and stable home.
TRAUMA INFORMED COUNSELING
SEXUAL VIOLENCE SERVICES
  • 959 hotline calls answered
  • 117 new counseling clients
  • 438 sessions provided
Victims of sexual violence, ages 12 and above, are offered up to 6 individual sessions. Psycho-educational support groups are also offered on a continuing basis. Significant others are also offered support and 6 individual sessions.
CULTURALLY SENSITIVE SUPPORT
SHORE REGIONAL OUTREACH PROGRAM
  • 163 clients served
  • 406 sessions provided
Cultural differences and language barriers can make it difficult to receive assistance and support. Our Shore Regional Outreach Program offers free counseling, psycho-educational support groups, community outreach, system advocacy at area municipal courts, and information and referral services in Long Branch, Neptune, Asbury Park and surrounding areas. Counseling in Spanish is available.
SURVIVING AND THRIVING
 VICTIM SUPPORT PROGRAM
  • 450 Domestic Violence Response Team Accompaniments at Police Stations
  • 312 Sexual Assault Response Team Accompaniments (medical, legal, and court)
The Victim Support Program is comprised of the Domestic Violence Response Team Program, which includes approximately 200 volunteer Victim Advocates who provide support and advocacy to victims at police headquarters, and the Sexual Violence Program, which is comprised of approximately 40 Sexual Assault Response Team volunteers who provide support and advocacy to victims at police headquarters, five hospitals, and at Grand Jury. This program also includes counseling, educational presentations, and the Primary Prevention Program.

Volunteers Needed: “Volunteer to Assist Victims of Domestic Violence”

Volunteer to Assist Victims of Domestic Violence

 

You can be the change you want to see in the world by joining 180’s life-changing mission today. 180’s Volunteer Domestic Violence Response Team (DVRT) Advocates are civilian members of the community who work collaboratively with law enforcement to provide confidential support, information, and resources to victims of domestic violence at police headquarters. Advocates also discuss with victims safety planning and their legal rights in regard to obtaining a Temporary Restraining Order. By providing support and crucial perspective of the situation, these specially-trained advocates help to empower victims to make informed decisions for themselves and their families. The identities of the DVRT volunteers are kept anonymous. Prior knowledge of domestic violence is not required. 180 and the police departments are committed to culturally and socially diverse teams to better serve the community. Bi-lingual capability is helpful.

 

Training Dates:

October 1st – 24th

Tuesdays/Wednesdays/Thursdays

6:00p-9:30p

Ocean Township Police Department

399 Monmouth Road, Ocean Township

 

Basic requirements for volunteers to apply:  Must be eighteen-years of age or older, have access to transportation, possess a valid driver’s license, be willing to serve on an on-call shift basis, participate in an interview process, pass background investigations and fingerprinting, successfully complete the mandatory 40-hour training, and attend monthly supervisory meetings.

 

For more information or to obtain an application contact: Sue Levine, Victim Support Program Coordinator, at susanl@180nj.org and 732 264-4360, Ext. 4271, or visit

https://180nj.org/give-help/volunteering/domestic-violence-response-team-advocate/

 

 

For forty-three years, 180 Turning Lives Around, a private non-profit organization, has been

dedicated to ending domestic and sexual violence, which affects our community.

180’s Domestic Violence 24/7 Confidential Hotline: 732 264-4111 or 888 843-9262

In an emergency: Dial 911

180 Responds to Victims of Stalking

Definition: Stalking is a pattern of behavior that may cause fear or concern fear for the person who is the focus of the behavior.

Stalking is a crime that frequently predicts and co-occurs with physical and sexual violence. 180 Turning Lives Around can help guide you and give you the tools you need to respond to the crime of stalking. Stalkers use many tactics including: Approaching the victim or showing up in places when the victim didn’t want them to be there; making unwanted telephone calls;leaving the victim unwanted messages (text or voice); watching or following the victim from a distance, or spying on the victim with a listening device, camera, or GPS.

Common staking behaviors include:

  • Repeated calls, text messages, e-mails, or posts via social media
  • Following the victim or showing up where they are (e.g., near home, work, school, or other places the victim might frequent)
  • Using technology to track, find out and/or disseminate personal information about the victim
  • Threatening to hurt the victim and/or people they care about

Please reach out to us to learn more or talk about your experience, our Hotline is anonymous and confidential: 1-888-843-9262

Financial Empowerment Workshop: Financial Abuse and Budgeting

This workshop is free and open to anyone age 18 and up who has experienced Domestic Violence and is interested in learning more about Financial Abuse and Budgeting.  All participants will receive a helpful information packet.
Does your abuser…..
  • Urge you or demand that you quit your job or prevent you from working?
  • Stalk or harass you at work?
  • Refuse to give you access to bank accounts and hide or keep assets from you?
  • Give you a set amount of money to spend and no more?
  • Constantly question purchases you make and demand to see receipts?
  • Make financial decisions without consulting you?
  • Steal your identity or file fraudulent tax returns with your name attached to them?
  • Sell property that was yours?
  • File false insurance claims with your name on them?
  • Not pay child support so you can’t afford rent, food, and other needed items?
  • Force you to open lines of credit?
These are just some of the common ways that financial abuse happens. We understand and can help move you towards economic independence.
DATE: 
Wednesday, January 16, 2019
TIME: 
10:00 AM – 11:30 AM
LOCATION: 
180 Turning Lives Around
1 Bethany Road, Bldg., 3, Suite 42
Hazlet, NJ 07730
Please call Danielle to register and reserve a spot for this exciting new workshop that will help you move towards economic independence.
RSVP: 732-264-4360 x 4262 
Space is limited; please sign up by 1/14/19.