Volunteers Needed: “Volunteer to Assist Victims of Domestic Violence”

Volunteer to Assist Victims of Domestic Violence

 

You can be the change you want to see in the world by joining 180’s life-changing mission today. 180’s Volunteer Domestic Violence Response Team (DVRT) Advocates are civilian members of the community who work collaboratively with law enforcement to provide confidential support, information, and resources to victims of domestic violence at police headquarters. Advocates also discuss with victims safety planning and their legal rights in regard to obtaining a Temporary Restraining Order. By providing support and crucial perspective of the situation, these specially-trained advocates help to empower victims to make informed decisions for themselves and their families. The identities of the DVRT volunteers are kept anonymous. Prior knowledge of domestic violence is not required. 180 and the police departments are committed to culturally and socially diverse teams to better serve the community. Bi-lingual capability is helpful.

 

Training Dates:

October 1st – 24th

Tuesdays/Wednesdays/Thursdays

6:00p-9:30p

Ocean Township Police Department

399 Monmouth Road, Ocean Township

 

Basic requirements for volunteers to apply:  Must be eighteen-years of age or older, have access to transportation, possess a valid driver’s license, be willing to serve on an on-call shift basis, participate in an interview process, pass background investigations and fingerprinting, successfully complete the mandatory 40-hour training, and attend monthly supervisory meetings.

 

For more information or to obtain an application contact: Sue Levine, Victim Support Program Coordinator, at susanl@180nj.org and 732 264-4360, Ext. 4271, or visit

https://180nj.org/give-help/volunteering/domestic-violence-response-team-advocate/

 

 

For forty-three years, 180 Turning Lives Around, a private non-profit organization, has been

dedicated to ending domestic and sexual violence, which affects our community.

180’s Domestic Violence 24/7 Confidential Hotline: 732 264-4111 or 888 843-9262

In an emergency: Dial 911

180 Responds to Victims of Stalking

Definition: Stalking is a pattern of behavior that may cause fear or concern fear for the person who is the focus of the behavior.

Stalking is a crime that frequently predicts and co-occurs with physical and sexual violence. 180 Turning Lives Around can help guide you and give you the tools you need to respond to the crime of stalking. Stalkers use many tactics including: Approaching the victim or showing up in places when the victim didn’t want them to be there; making unwanted telephone calls;leaving the victim unwanted messages (text or voice); watching or following the victim from a distance, or spying on the victim with a listening device, camera, or GPS.

Common staking behaviors include:

  • Repeated calls, text messages, e-mails, or posts via social media
  • Following the victim or showing up where they are (e.g., near home, work, school, or other places the victim might frequent)
  • Using technology to track, find out and/or disseminate personal information about the victim
  • Threatening to hurt the victim and/or people they care about

Please reach out to us to learn more or talk about your experience, our Hotline is anonymous and confidential: 1-888-843-9262

Financial Empowerment Workshop: Financial Abuse and Budgeting

This workshop is free and open to anyone age 18 and up who has experienced Domestic Violence and is interested in learning more about Financial Abuse and Budgeting.  All participants will receive a helpful information packet.
Does your abuser…..
  • Urge you or demand that you quit your job or prevent you from working?
  • Stalk or harass you at work?
  • Refuse to give you access to bank accounts and hide or keep assets from you?
  • Give you a set amount of money to spend and no more?
  • Constantly question purchases you make and demand to see receipts?
  • Make financial decisions without consulting you?
  • Steal your identity or file fraudulent tax returns with your name attached to them?
  • Sell property that was yours?
  • File false insurance claims with your name on them?
  • Not pay child support so you can’t afford rent, food, and other needed items?
  • Force you to open lines of credit?
These are just some of the common ways that financial abuse happens. We understand and can help move you towards economic independence.
DATE: 
Wednesday, January 16, 2019
TIME: 
10:00 AM – 11:30 AM
LOCATION: 
180 Turning Lives Around
1 Bethany Road, Bldg., 3, Suite 42
Hazlet, NJ 07730
Please call Danielle to register and reserve a spot for this exciting new workshop that will help you move towards economic independence.
RSVP: 732-264-4360 x 4262 
Space is limited; please sign up by 1/14/19.

We will be at the Safe House this holiday.

Caroline’s Story


When I told Ryan and Megan that this holiday would be different, little did I know how resilient my little ones would be. I had such conflicting emotions about spending the holidays at 180’s Safe House. Ryan’s letter to Santa made me cry, yet I keep telling myself that leaving my abuser and the violence in our lives, was the best gift I could ever give to my children. In my heart I know that never again will I have to worry about our safety, hide in fear or cover my bruises; we will live in peace as every family should. The caring staff at the Safe House is helping me to start anew. With a restraining order now in place, we will stay at the Safe House through the holidays and into the first month of the new year. The kids and I have begun art therapy with 180 counselors and I have started to focus on seeking a new job and finding a permanent place to live. Together, we will figure out a new and wonderful way of life – free from abuse and full of hope. Safety, peace, courage and hope….these are our gifts this holiday season.


 


Dear Friends of 180,

For Ryan’s Mom and so many of our clients like her, escaping an abusive relationship has additional challenges during the holiday season when emotions tend to be heightened, and the imagery of a “perfect” family is in sharp contrast to a victims’ own reality. A parent’s worry of not being able to provide a good holiday for their children, is a feeling almost as torturous as the abusive relationship they are fleeing. Fearing for one’s safety means making a change that will last a life-time–even if it means leaving the abuser during the holiday season.
Every individual deserves a loving, safe home during the holidays and every day of the year. Thousands of victims of domestic violence turn to us each year for support through our hotlines, counseling, court assistance and more. In fact, we have never had an empty safe house during the Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah or New Year’s seasons. This 2018 holiday is no different and 180 is blessed and thankful to have your support.
In the spirit of giving, and fulfilling wishes, we hope you will consider a financial gift to support 180 this holiday season. Your donation, no matter the size, will be used year-round to help empower survivors to have the strength and courage to turn their life around. Thank you for your consideration this winter.
With all of our best wishes to you and your family for a healthy and safe holiday, and a very happy new year,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

Please considering supporting 180 this holiday season by donating through the link above. If you would like to discuss your gift, or provide a credit card over the phone, please contact Lynn Lucarelli, Director of Development at 732-264-4360 ext. 4230 or email: lynnl@180nj.org

The Danger Assessment

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month and 180 Turning Lives Around is grateful for this month-long recognition which helps draw awareness, support and engagement with our mission.
Each day our hotline rings with calls from victims of domestic violence who have confronted their fears of retaliation and taken that courageous step to get help for themselves and their family.  Callers like Elizabeth*, explaining through her tears, that she and her daughter had been living in their car for the last few days since fleeing her abusive husband’s death threats.  He had come home drunk and threatened to kill her, throwing her against the wall.  Wearing only their pajamas and running out in the middle of the night, she wasn’t sure where to turn.  A call to the police lead her to finding 180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.  It wasn’t the first time he’d terrorized her but she vowed it would be the last.  Drumming up all her courage, she told her story to 180’s hotline counselor who listened with compassion and understanding.  “You don’t have to do this alone, we’re here to help you”.
During calls like these, staff who are trained and certified in administering Johns Hopkins University’s Danger Assessment tool, discuss factors that may determine a victim’s level of danger and risk of lethality.  The days and months following a victim leaving her abuser is often the most dangerous for her so a Safety Plan is discussed to address her safety and well-being in the immediate future. Should she decide to come in for counseling, these tools are elaborated upon and plans for her next steps put in place.
For Elizabeth, and thousands like her each year, 180 is a beacon of hope that helps individuals empower themselves and find the courage and strength to turn their lives around.  Each year, more than three million victims in the United States are abused by their intimate partners with more than 1,200 killed by their abusers.  These victims of homicide or attempted homicide are often unaware prior to the attack that their lives are in danger.  The Danger Assessment tool is just one critical step we take in working with domestic violence survivors to help assure their safety.
We thank you for taking the time to read this and to understand one aspect of our work with survivors.  We appreciate your support of our mission which makes this work possible.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.
*To protect confidentiality, client name has been changed.
P.S. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month and to help raise awareness in Monmouth County, please consider forwarding this message to individuals in your network. 

180’s Amanda’s Easel Exhibit to be hosted by The Jon Bon Jovi Soul Kitchen, Red Bank – October 17, 2018

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and we have a very special evening planned to raise awareness about domestic and sexual violence in Monmouth County.
I hope you will join us on Wednesday, October 17, 2018 from 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. at the Jon Bon Jovi Soul Kitchen in Red Bank, NJ for 180’s Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapies Exhibit, “Rock and River: Obstacles and Flow In Survival.” All community members are invited to join us. This event is kindly hosted once again by our friends at the Soul Kitchen and requires no entry fee; RSVP at amandaf@180nj.org
The theme for this year’s project focuses on the concept of river and rocks. Depicted through the use of natural elements like water, rock, pebbles and stones, the ebb and flow of life symbolize the recurrent or rhythmical pattern, of life’s journey. Like a ripple in seemingly still water, or a quickly changing current that seems to carry us in a different direction, our ability to be resilient, strong and willing to change is part of our growth and healing. Using this two-sided metaphor, participants have used rocks and other found natural objects to create their personal vision and perspective of how change and obstacles have influenced their life journey through domestic violence. The metaphor of life’s journey being like the river that flows through obstacles and challenges yet never gives up, is significant in the fight against family violence.
We are so pleased to once again partner with our friends at the JBJ Soul Kitchen who have generously hosted us for many years, to showcase this artwork. After this initial showing, the exhibit will travel around Monmouth County at colleges, libraries, and schools to continue the conversation, outreach and awareness efforts.
For further information, or to showcase this exhibit at your location, please contact Cindi Westendorf, Program Coordinator of 180’s Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapies

When abusers have guns, people die.

Our hearts are with Texas. 180 Turning Lives Around is mourning the loss of life in the most recent mass shooting. It is without hesitation that I am compelled to share with you two simple facts:
  • When abusers have guns, people are at a high risk of homicide.
  • Mass shooters often have a history of domestic violence – in fact nearly 60 percent of recent incidents.
The threads of domestic violence in the lives of these perpetrators are important to note:
Santa Fe High School, Texas – where 8 students and 2 teachers were killed, and where according to the mother of one of the victims, her daughter had rejected the killer’s advances for months.
Orlando Nightclub – where 49 were killed and 53 injured, the deadliest mass shooting in U.S. history, the perpetrator cruelly abused his former wife, isolating her from friends and family.
Parkland, Florida – before the mass shooter killed 17 students and teachers, he was abusive to his girlfriend, stalked her, abused animals, owned guns and was expelled from high school for fighting with his ex-girlfriend’s new boyfriend.
Planned Parenthood, Colorado Springs – where three individuals were shot to death, the killer beat and raped his wife and had been previously arrested.
Boston Marathon – before planting the bombs that killed three people and injured more than 260, the killer was arrested for beating his girlfriend.
Kansas – an hour and a half after receiving a restraining order stemming from a domestic violence complaint filed by his ex-girlfriend the murderer equipped with assault rifle and pistol killed three and injured 14.

 

And the list goes on. The statistics regarding DV and gun access are staggering. When an abusive partner has access to firearms, statistics show that domestic violence is more likely to turn deadly. According to research published in the American Journal of Public Health, the presence of a gun in domestic violence situations increases the risk of homicide for women by 500 percent. More than half of women murdered with guns are killed by family members or intimate partners.

Our commitment to empowering survivors of domestic violence to turn their life around is paramount. However, in light of the link we see between mass shooters and domestic violence, we also remain steadfast to advocating for laws that prohibit domestic abusers access to guns and we implore the community to immediately hold abusers accountable for their behavior.

Anna Diaz-White

Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

P.S. You can read more about the link between domestic violence and mass shootings in the articles we collected here:

RSVP Reminder and Live Auction Preview

Now is the time to RSVP for 180’s Annual Celebration – an event this year which will highlight the #MeToo movement during April’s Sexual Assault Awareness month.
Please join us as we honor our two very deserving recipients:
Impact 100 Jersey Coast accepting, Deirdre Spiropoulos and 
Heather Burke and The Jon Bon Jovi Soul Kitchen accepting, Dorothea Bongiovi

The Bobby Bandiera Band will set the stage for an evening to remember and these Live Auction items are sure to please!

PARTY LIKE A ROCKSTAR
Dorothea and Jon are picking concert seats especially for you!  This will be an amazing night with our Monmouth County neighbor, Jon Bon Jovi! Experience includes behind the scenes tour with a VIP Host and an amazing VIP Preshow Reception in the lounge with food, appetizers, beverages and more!

ESPERANZA

Experience this amazing resort in Cabo overlooking the Sea of Cortez. A sophisticated retreat on the shores of Baja, Esperanza offers an incomparable natural setting on 17 lush acres. Winner and guests will enjoy an entire week in this world-class vacation retreat. This fabulous suite includes a gorgeous open air living room with two balconies, kitchen, 3 bedroom/3 king beds and 3 full baths. Resort has a spectacular spa, multiple infinity pools, work out facilities and restaurants on the property.

SPRINGSTEEN ON BROADWAY
Two special VIP tickets at a performance date of your choice (between now and December 2018) will have you cheering Bruuuuuuce! You select any Friday or Saturday night….it will be an experience you won’t forget. Grab your date, the limo is on the way – it’s time to get ready for Springsteen on Broadway! Thank you Bruce and Patti!


Their Story

These brave women shared their stories with us. If their story sounds a bit like yours, please reach out to us today. 180 can help you like we helped them. We understand that the holidays can be an especially vulnerable time for families and 180 Turning Lives Around is here for you. 1.888.843.9262

 

Jennifer stayed at 180’s Safe House

Dear Friends of 180,
Warm winter greetings from 180 Turning Lives Around!
This Holiday Season, I would like for you to meet Jennifer. Her name and identifying details have been changed to protect her for purposes of this story, but her experience with us is real. Her life forever changed for the better because of individuals like you who choose to support our mission. You make her story, and so many more like hers, possible. It is especially important for us to say thank you during this holiday season and to ask for your continued support on behalf of our neighbors in Monmouth County who will need our help in the coming year. Without you, we simply could not continue to change and save lives here in our community.
On behalf of the 180 Board of Trustees, staff and all of our survivor-families, we wish you a peaceful and safe new year.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around
I came to 180 and stayed in their Safe House. I was pregnant with my first child. It wasn’t the first time he was violent, but this time he strangled me. I left him and found 180. The staff at the Safe House gave me the tools I needed to start anew. Safety and a place to stay at first, but the longer, more lasting benefits were the tools I was given to make sure that I lived a life free from abuse; self-confidence, inner strength, renewal and hope. These tools would set me free and would allow me to carve out a life away from him and safe for me and my baby. I gave birth while staying at the Safe House and thanks to 180 my son and I will be celebrating our first holiday together – on our own and safe. I will never forget my time with 180 and all of the guidance and support I received. While the first days of my motherhood were spent at 180’s Safe House, my infant and I were exactly where we were meant to be.
Jennifer’s story has been altered to protect privacy and safety. Names have been changed to preserve anonymity.