Play Therapy with 180

180’s Play Therapist Liz, put together a project that our families can do at home with their child. It’s a great conversation starter about sharing their feelings. With a color key, you can instruct your child to “Color your heart to show how you are feeling right now.” It’s good to explain that we can have a variety of emotions at the same time in different amounts. When your child is finished, ask her or him to tell you about the drawing. You can usually get them to expand on a response by saying, “Tell me more.” You can make your own observations – “I see there is a lot of blue, so you’re really feeling nervous. Can you tell me about that?” Listen to what is said and respond in a calm, age-appropriate manner. Children take their cues from adults. “A lot of people are feeling nervous, but I’m here to keep you safe. You can always come and talk with me.”

For more information about 180’s programs for children, please call our hotline: (888) 843-9262

 

Program Operations at 180 During COVID-19

March 23, 2020
180 Turning Lives Around is here for you. We know that you may need our domestic violence and sexual assault services now more than ever. We are making a few temporary shifts to some of our services in response to local closures and to minimize the risk of virus transmission. We will continue to make decisions and plans based on information and directives from the CDC, federal, state and local healthcare professionals, the Governor’s Office, Monmouth County and local municipalities. We are following social distancing practices to help protect the health of our staff, our clients, and the community. Here is an update on our programs and operations:
Counseling, Family Justice Center, Family Court Liaison Program and Case Management
Survivors currently receiving services will continue receiving services remotely, either individually and in safe distance from one another, or by phone.
Support groups have been postponed at this time. We encourage survivors who are looking to begin services to call our hotline. A counselor will discuss your individual needs.
Parent and child creative arts therapy through 180’s Amanda’s Easel Creative Art Therapy Program will be implemented remotely.
Temporary Restraining Orders
Temporary Restraining Orders will be done at local Police Departments 24/7. Please know that a 180 advocate is available to support you via phone.
Hotline
Our trained counselors are here for you. You can immediately reach our hotlines for support 24/7 as follows:
Domestic Violence:
1-888-843-9262
Sexual Violence:
1-888-264-RAPE
2NDFLOOR Youth Call and Text Helpline:
1-888-222-2228
Safe House
Our emergency shelter is completely operational. Please contact our hotline if you need these services. In an immediate emergency, call 911.
Crisis Response Team Accompaniments at Police and Hospital
Accompaniments are being conducted by phone both at hospital emergency rooms and police departments. For survivors with questions about the sexual assault exam and evidence collection, you can call our hotline. Survivors are continuing to receive the medical, law enforcement and 180 support they require 24/7.
Donations of In-kind Items During This Time
180 is limiting the collections of donated, in-kind items at this time and restricting all visitor access to our offices.
Special Note
Domestic violence and sexual assault do not just stop because of a crisis like the one we are currently facing. In fact, when family stressors increase, violence and abuse can quickly escalate. It is these very trying times that a survivor needs 180 even more; and we are determined to be there for everyone who needs our services.

For the most up to date announcements on our programs and services, please periodically check the link here: https://180nj.org/covid-19/

The New Jersey Sexual Assault Survivor Protection Act

Legal Options for Teen Victims of Sexual Violence:

The New Jersey Sexual Assault Survivor Protection Act

 

What is the Sexual Assault Survivor Protection Act?

The Sexual Assault Survivor Protection Act (SASPA) was enacted into law in May 2016 within the state of New Jersey. The Sexual Assault Survivor Protection Act (SASPA) provides victims of sexual violence with the ability to apply for a protective order against their perpetrator within Family Court. Victims of sexual violence are not required to move forward in pressing criminal charges against their perpetrator in order to receive a protective order under SASPA.

What can a protective order do for my teen? A protective order is a legal document issued by the court that legally forbids the following behavior by a perpetrator to the victim:

  • acts of contact (in-person, telephonic, or through a third party)
  • acts of seeing the perpetrator (ex: preventing perpetrator from entering home, place of employment, or school)
  • acts of sexual violence
  • additional relief assigned by the court

Is my teen eligible for a protective order?

Eligibility requirements for those who can file a protective order under SASPA include:

  • anyone who is a victim of nonconsensual sexual contact, sexual penetration, or lewdness or any attempt at such conduct
  • anyone who is a victim of the above victimizations and is not eligible for a restraining order as a victim of domestic violence (ex: your teen does not have a domestic or dating relationship to the perpetrator)
  • anyone who is a victim of the above victimizations and the perpetrator is at least 18 years old

How does my teen file for a protective order?

A temporary protective order application under SASPA can be filed by the victim’s parent or legal guardian on behalf of the victim in any case where the victim is under the age of 18 years old. Temporary protective orders can only be filed in the Family Division of the Superior Court during court hours.

How can 180 help my teen who has experienced sexual violence?

  • Sexual Violence Court Advocate for assistance in filing a SASPA protective order within and accompaniment to all court proceedings within the Superior Court
  • Sexual Violence Counseling for survivors ages 12 & older
  • Sexual Assault Response Team (SART) for direct supportive services and accompaniment to survivors at hospitals and police stations for survivors ages 13 & older
  • 24 Hour Confidential Sexual Violence Hotline: (888) 264-7273
  • 2ND FLOOR Youth Call and Text Helpline: (888) 222-2288

Note: Information was adapted from New Jersey Coalition Against Sexual Assault (2017). For more information, visit: https://njcasa.org/saspa/

Volunteer Victim Advocates Needed

Become A Volunteer Advocate for Victims of Domestic Violence:

Applications Available for Next Training Course

 

You can be the change you want to see in the world by joining 180’s life-changing mission today. 180 Turning Lives Around (180), a private non-profit organization in Monmouth County, continues to provide confidential support and advocacy to victims of domestic violence in the aftermath of a highly emotional and traumatic experience with the assistance of its dedicated response team volunteers at police headquarters throughout Monmouth County.

 

180’s volunteer Domestic Violence Response Team (DVRT) Victim Advocates are civilian members of the community who work collaboratively with law enforcement to provide support, information, and resources to victims of domestic violence. Advocates also discuss with victims safety planning and their legal rights in regard to obtaining a Temporary Restraining Order. By providing empathy and a crucial perspective of the situation, these specially-trained advocates help to empower victims to make informed decisions for themselves and their families.

 

The mandatory 40-hour training course for new volunteer advocates is being conducted by 180 staff April 21st – May 14th, Tuesdays/Wednesdays/Thursdays, 6:00pm-9:30pm. The Tuesday sessions are being held at the Holmdel Community Center, 6 Crawfords Corner Road. The location for the Wednesday and Thursday sessions is the courtroom at Hazlet Police Headquarters, 255 Middle Road. Training will be provided for free to successful applicants.

 

Basic requirements for volunteers to apply include that they must be eighteen years of age or older, have access to reliable transportation, possess a valid driver’s license, be willing to serve on an on-call shift basis, participate in an interview process, submit to background investigations and fingerprinting, and successfully complete the mandatory training. The police departments and 180 are committed to culturally and socially diverse teams to better serve the community. Bi-lingual capability is helpful. Prior knowledge of domestic violence is not required. The identities of the DVRT volunteers are kept anonymous. For an application or additional information, please contact Tina Morgan, Assistant Victim Support Program Coordinator, at tinam@180nj.org or 732 264-4360, Ext. 4272. Please mention the town where you reside. Deadline to apply is April 10th.  Applications are also available for download at https://180nj.org/give-help/volunteering/domestic-violence-response-team-advocate/

 

The free, confidential service of the DVRT program is available for victims of domestic violence, 24-hours a day, 7-days a week, at the police departments in Monmouth County.

 

For forty-four years, 180 Turning Lives Around has been dedicated to providing emergency safe housing, counseling, support, prevention, education, and advocacy in Monmouth County for individuals and families affected by domestic violence, sexual violence, and human trafficking. If you, or someone you know, is in need of assistance, please call the 180 Turning Lives Around 24/7 Confidential Hotline at 732-264-4111 or 888-843-9262. Visit www.180nj.org for more information. In an emergency, dial 9-1-1.

180 Partners with Hackensack Meridian Health on New Hospital-Based Violence Intervention Program

Anna Diaz-White, Executive Director, 180 Turning Lives Around and Aakash Shah, MD of Hackensack Meridian Health meet with 180’s Susan Levine and Darren Averett to discuss  a new hospital-based violence intervention program that will combine the expertise of 180 staff and specially-trained volunteers alongside emergency room and other hospital department personnel in order to improve outcomes for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. The program will take place at Jersey Shore Medical Center.
Dr. Shah is an expert in emergency care and behavioral health care, while 180 is Monmouth County’s only State designated lead domestic violence service agency. 180 specializes in trauma-informed counseling and domestic and sexual violence programs which empower survivors to have the strength and courage to turn their life around. 180 is honored to be a partner in this new program which will connect 180 counselors directly to crime victims before they leave the hospital.
To learn more about supporting 180 Turning Lives Around or volunteer opportunities, contact Lynn Lucarelli, Director of Development, lynnl@180nj.org.

Helping Your Teen Identify Signs of an Unhealthy and Healthy Relationship

Help your teen identify the signs of an unhealthy and a healthy relationship. Try this interactive quiz with your teen after school today:

www.coolnotcoolquiz.org

Conversation Starters: Digital Dating Abuse

Use these conversation starters to talk to your teen about digital dating abuse.

 

https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/wp-content/uploads/Conversation-Starters-Digital-Dating-Abuse.pdf

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

Download the “Consent” informational sheet and have the conversation with your teen today.

CONSENT

Sincere Condolences to the Parze Family

Dear Community,
Our hearts have been heavy since Stephanie Parze’s disappearance in October 2019. We feared the most terrible outcome which has been confirmed with today’s news of the discovery of her remains in Old Bridge, NJ. We extend our deepest condolences to the Parze family.
Domestic/dating violence is an insidious epidemic that happens every day, everywhere, without regard to socioeconomic status, race, religion, ethnicity or education. Domestic/dating violence is an under-reported crime, with many victims either too afraid or ashamed to step forward, but authorities estimate that as many as one in every four women and one in seven men will experience domestic violence at some point in their lives. This kind of crime is of particular concern to residents of Monmouth County, which has the fifth highest number of reported domestic violence incidents in the State, with over 4,200 reported offenses each year.
We know that the most dangerous time for a victim is when that person is trying to leave. It is during this time that a victim is at the highest risk of severe injury or homicide than at any other time during the relationship. For any Monmouth County victim of domestic violence, and we know that there are thousands of you out there today, please know that 180 Turning Lives Around is here to work with you to develop a safety plan for you and your children, and to design a path to a life free from abuse and harm.
180 Turning Lives Around (180), is a nonprofit organization dedicated to ending domestic violence and sexual assault in Monmouth County. 180 offers 24-hour hotlines, emergency shelter, family court assistance, counseling, safety planning and trained advocates who accompany survivors at all area police stations and hospitals.
If you or someone you know needs help please reach out to us; calls are anonymous and confidential. We are available 24 hours, 7 days a week: 888-843-9262 or 888-264-RAPE. Additional information is available on our website: www.180nj.org.
Our thoughts are with Mr. and Mrs. Parze and their family.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director