Home with your abuser during COVID-19? Read these safety tips. 180 is here for you. 

For help developing a personalized safety plan for you and your children, call our Domestic Violence Hotline at 888-843-9262. 

Below is a list of safety recommendations that many domestic violence agencies are sharing with their community in light of COVID-19 and domestic violence:

  • If you or your family members are in immediate danger, call 911
  • Keep your phone charged and on you at all times. Know where your charger is, or keep it stored in an easy-to-grab go-bag. Keep a few safe phone numbers written down on paper in your car or go-bag in case you don’t have your phone with you.
  • Remember to turn off your phone (and other devices) and GPS when leaving for safety.
  • Turn off childrens’  phones or devices that have GPS.
  • Identify safe ways out of each room, including windows if necessary. Make sure that these pathways are cleared.
  • When violence occurs, lead your abuser to a safe room that has an exit path. Avoid rooms that have items that could be used as weapons (kitchens, garages), avoid rooms that have lots of hard surfaces (kitchens, bathrooms), and try to avoid rooms that only have one exit that can be blocked (second-story bedrooms, closets).
  • Identify a code word to use with children so they know to leave the room/home and go to a trusted neighbor. Plan a code word with trusted friends or family outside of the home that indicates you are in danger and need help.
  • Identify transportation options. Keep your car’s gas tank full, and back in to your parking spot/driveway so that it’s easier to drive away. Identify a safe spot for your keys. Make plans with a trusted person who can pick you up.
  • Pack a go-bag. Possible items to include: extra sets of clothing for you and your children; items for any pets you will take with you, copies of important documents and/or IDs, medications, an extra set of keys, a written list of safe phone numbers, and extra cash in case your partner cuts off your credit cards or phone pay apps. Important documents include a copy of any restraining orders, medical records, and documentation of abuse. Keep the go-bag in a hidden but easy to reach location.
  • Document any abuse, including harassment or stalking. Take screenshots, make notes, and store these in a safe place. If you feel comfortable, report to police.
  • As people move to using technology more in place of physical interaction, please practice tech safety. Protect your passwords, or change them if your abuser has access to them. Make your accounts as private as possible. Assume that any communication with your abuser can be documented by them and used against you. Visit techsafety.org for additional safety tips.
  • Keep yourself and others safe by following the latest health guidelines and recommendations. This includes wiping down frequently used surfaces vigorously and washing your hands often. For up-to-date information visit www.cdc.gov, or www.nj.gov/health.

180 Turning Lives Around’s hotlines all remain available 24/7 to help those in crisis and to answer any questions you may have. Domestic Violence: (888) 843-9262 | Sexual Violence: (888) 264-7273 | 2NDFLOOR® Youth: (888) 222-2228 Deaf and Hard of Hearing Text Available: (732) 977-2766

Supporting Survivors: never cancelled.

We will never cancel supporting survivors. Recently we had to cancel our Annual Celebration – our largest fundraising event of the year, but we will never cancel supporting survivors. For over forty years, 180 has been supporting survivors, and the coronavirus is not going to stop us.
Our services are needed now more than ever. Sadly we can confidently make this prediction: when family stressors increase, abusers get more abusive, and families are in greater danger. Right now many victims are trapped in their homes with their abusers. Escape plans that had been in progress are now on hold. Even breaking free for a private moment to reach out to our hotline is a frightening challenge. Yet victims are still reaching out to us and we are ready and receiving their calls for help. We also expect that as the “shelter in place” order lifts, we will experience a spike in the number of victims seeking our support and services. We will continue to be ready at a moments notice for anyone who needs our help.
So while our Annual Celebration is cancelled, supporting survivors is never cancelled:
  • Our hotlines are open;
  • Our emergency Safe House is fully operational;
  • Families living in transitional housing are receiving consistent advocacy and frequent check-ins;
  • Our therapists are delivering counseling from safe and secure remote work spaces;
  • We are partnering with our local police departments and our local hospitals to provide a 180 advocate to any resident of Monmouth County who needs our support;
  • We are making sure that anyone who needs a temporary restraining order during this time gets the guidance they need;
  • We are rotating our crisis response team advocates every single day, and making sure that we are prepared to support any victim of sexual assault whether they present at the police station, hospital emergency room, or phone us through our sexual assault hotline.
180 is here for our community. For the most up to date announcements on our programs and services during the pandemic,
To contribute to our mission, please visit: Support 180.

Help 180 Answer The Call

Today is “Giving Tuesday” and I invite you to participate.
All gifts received this Giving Tuesday will support one of our most highly utilized programs – our 24 hour Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotlines. The hotlines are always available and are staffed by highly trained professionals in the field of domestic and sexual violence and human trafficking. Everyday, 180 is answering calls and helping to guide victims to safety.
Nearly 3,000 calls are made to 180 annually. The hotlines are often the entryway into additional agency services including: emergency shelter at our safe house, counseling, legal and court advocacy, and programs for children such as our Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapy program or the 2NDFLOOR Youth Text and Helpline.
Please donate in honor of Giving Tuesday and your gift will help us answer the call in a victim’s moment of crisis. Your support at any level makes a difference!
P.S: As you probably already know, Giving Tuesday is a global day of giving fueled by the power of social media and collaboration. Giving Tuesday kicks off the charitable season, when many focus on their holiday and end-of-year giving. Thank you for including 180 Turning Lives Around in your giving plans this year!