Tai Chi Chih and Meditation for Survivors of Domestic and Sexual Violence

180 Turning Lives Around

presents a relaxing and fun workshop, offered FREE to survivors of domestic and sexual violence

Tai Chi Chih and Meditation

with Lauren Lormel, LCSW

 

19 simple movements, easy to learn —regardless of age, experience or physical  ability….

  • Unites the mind, body and spirit
  • Promotes balance & coordination
  • Relieves tensions & stress
  • Sustains a level of calmness
  • Improves concentration
  • Increases energy

SPACE IS LIMITED

Date: Tuesday June 4, 2019  or Tuesday June 18, 2019

Time:                         5:30 PM—7:00 PM

Location:                 180 Turning Lives Around, Hazlet, NJ

RSVP:                        Please call Call: Elisse  (732)  264-4360 ext. 4282 to find out more and reserve a spot!

 

Workshops have limited space so pre-registration is REQUIRED.

 

 

180 Thanks Supporters of Annual Celebration

180 Turning Lives Around held their annual fundraising event this year themed, “HavAnna Nights” in special recognition of event honoree, Anna Diaz-White, the 35 year Executive Director who is Cuban American. Funds raised will support 180’s domestic violence and sexual assault programs including 180’s Monmouth County based Safe House – an emergency shelter and safe haven for families fleeing abuse. Thanks to the philanthropy of more than 260 guests, nearly $300,000 was raised. Major sponsors of the event included: Rick and Ana Blank, Crum & Forster, The Hirar and Anna Hovnanian Foundation and Sahakian Family, New Jersey Natural Gas and the lead, Presenting Sponsor, Verizon. The fabulous Bobby Bandiera Band set the stage for an evening to remember, while the De Tierre Caliente Band added a flair of Latin inspired music during the cocktail hour under twinkling string lights at the beautiful Riverhouse, Rumson Country Club.

180 is grateful for all donors, guests and sponsors who participated in the event. With funds raised, 180 can operate many programs which help save and change lives of countless Monmouth County residents. These programs include: 24-hour Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Hotlines, the rape care program, sexual violence counseling and court advocacy at the Family Justice Center and school outreach related to safe dates and healthy relationships as well as 180’s teen helpline based, the 2ND Floor Youth Text and Helpline.

 

 

“When a victim in Monmouth County needs help, 180 is there in a moment’s notice to support them in their darkest hour. Sexual assault and domestic violence survivors can contact 180 anytime – we are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week with our hotlines, counseling, support and advocacy. 180 can be found throughout our community – in all 5 area hospital emergency rooms and all 53 police departments. We respond with care and compassion to rape survivors, and so many other victims of abuse—including domestic violence, child abuse and human trafficking.” Anna Diaz-White, Executive Director, 180 Turning Lives Around. “We are grateful for the support of our caring community and to those who sponsored our Annual Celebration. The event provides critical funds and helps to raise awareness of our mission.”

 

   

 

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180 Turning Lives Around is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization whose mission is to empower survivors and families affected by domestic violence and sexual assault to find the courage and strength to turn their lives around. 180 supports this mission through 24/7 hotlines – including the 2NDFloor Youth Helpline, counseling, legal advocacy, emergency shelter and transitional housing and art, play and music therapy for children.

April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month

Like you, we believe that every child deserves a stable, loving, and nurturing home. Sadly, for children exposed to family violence and abuse, they are at an increased risk for physical abuse and other forms of child maltreatment.
During National Child Abuse Prevention Month, I would like to remind our community of the importance of 180’s Amanda’s Easel Program which supports children and families through the process of healing after experiencing, or witnessing, years of violence and abuse. The program provides art, play and music therapy that promotes healing by encouraging clients to express and understand their feelings and fears in a safe and nurturing environment. Amanda’s Easel is both an intervention and a prevention too, disrupting and/or preventing co-occurrence of domestic violence and child abuse. Research indicates that in an estimated 30 to 60 percent of families in which either child maltreatment or exposure to adult domestic violence is occurring, domestic violence and child abuse are also being perpetrated.
Our Amanda’s Easel Program Coordinator, Cindi Westendorf, LPC, ATR-BC, has been serving young people at 180 Turning Lives Around for over 20 years. The program’s use of evidence-based best practices helps to ensure positive outcomes. The program teaches young people about healthy and safe relationships, improves communication skills, and developmental tasks, in order to break the cycle of domestic violence and familial abuse. 180’s therapeutic interventions also focus on the adult survivor (parent) developing resilience, knowledge of child development, growth of social and emotional competencies, trauma history interventions, and other concrete supports for parents and children. We have seen hundreds of children and families rebuild their lives free of abuse and fear through our wrap-around services.
If you are in need of 180 and the Amanda’s Easel Program, please call or email us; the program is free and confidential, and we welcome you to learn more.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

Cindi Westendorf LPC, ATR-BC, Program Coordinator of the Amanda’s Easel Program,

has been serving 180 Turning Lives Around for over 20 years and our community is in excellent care with her thoughtful approach and best practices.

To learn more  about Amanda’s Easel, contact
Cindi Westendorf at cindiw@180nj.org
and visit:

 


Annual Celebration – Ad Journal Deadline Approaching April 8

JOURNAL ADVERTISING

Journal size is 8” x 8”  and printed in color

 

$500 / FULL PAGE

$350 / SPONSOR-A-CHILD

(Includes full page ad depicting Amanda’s Easel child or mother artwork.)

$250 / HALF PAGE

 

Advertising copy is required by April 8, 2019. Ad copy may be emailed to amandaf@180nj.org.        JPEG  file please!

Eve Ensler’s “The Vagina Monologues” are back by popular demand at Langosta Lounge to benefit 180 and Garden State Equality

Eve Ensler’s “The Vagina Monologues” are back by popular demand at Langosta Lounge! This event features local performers with talent that is sure to please. A portion of the proceeds benefit 180 Turning Lives Around, Inc. and Garden State Equality.

February 24th 4:30pm – 6:00 pm

Langosta Lounge – 1000 Ocean Avenue, Asbury Park, NJ 07712

Ticket Options:

Show Only $20
or
Show & 3 Course Pre-Fixe Dinner After Show $45*
*Gratuities not included
Any questions, please contact Langosta Lounge:
(732) 455-3275

Become A Volunteer Advocate for Victims of Domestic Violence

 

Become A Volunteer Advocate for Victims of Domestic Violence:

Applications Are Available for Next Training Course

 

You can be the change you want to see in the world by joining 180’s life-saving and life-changing mission today. 180 Turning Lives Around (180), a private non-profit organization in Monmouth County, continues to provide confidential support and advocacy to victims of domestic violence in the aftermath of a highly emotional and traumatic experience with the assistance of its dedicated response team volunteers. 180 will be conducting a 40-hour mandatory training course for new Domestic Violence Response Team (DVRT) Victim Advocates, April 29th-May 23rd, Mondays/Wednesdays/Thursdays, 6:00pm-9:30pm, in the courtroom at Hazlet Police Headquarters, 255 Middle Road in Hazlet. Training will be provided to successful applicants.

 

180’s volunteer DVRT Advocates are civilian members of the community who work collaboratively with law enforcement to provide support, information, and resources to victims of domestic violence at police headquarters. Advocates also discuss with victims safety planning and their legal rights in regard to obtaining a Temporary Restraining Order. By providing empathy and a crucial perspective of the situation, these specially-trained advocates help to empower victims to make informed decisions for themselves and their families.

 

Basic requirements for volunteers to apply include that they must be eighteen years of age or older, have access to reliable transportation, possess a valid driver’s license, be willing to serve on an on-call shift basis, participate in an interview process, submit to background investigations and fingerprinting, and successfully complete the mandatory training. The police departments and 180 are committed to culturally and socially diverse teams to better serve the community. Bi-lingual capability is helpful. Prior knowledge of domestic violence is not required. The identities of the DVRT volunteers are kept anonymous. For an application or additional information, please contact Tina Morgan, Assistant Coordinator, Victim Support Program, at tinam@180nj.org or 732 264-4360, Ext. 4272. Please mention the town where you reside. Deadline to apply is April 19th. Applications are also available for download at https://180nj.org/give-help/volunteering/domestic-violence-response-team-advocate/

 

The free, confidential service of the DVRT program is available for victims of domestic violence, 24-hours a day, 7-days a week, at police departments in Monmouth County.

 

For forty-three years, 180 Turning Lives Around has been dedicated to providing emergency safe housing, counseling, support, prevention, education, and advocacy in Monmouth County for individuals and families affected by domestic violence, sexual violence, and human trafficking. If you, or someone you know, is in need of assistance, please call the 180 Turning Lives Around 24/7 Confidential Hotline at 732-264-4111 or 888-843-9262. Visit www.180nj.org for more information. In an emergency, dial 9-1-1.

Teen Dating: Understanding Signs of a Healthy and Unhealthy Relationship

Please make time for a conversation with your teen about healthy vs. unhealthy relationships by reviewing the “Signs of Unhealthy and Healthy Relationship” below. Understanding behaviors can help your teen understand if they are in a potentially dangerous relationship.

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Understanding these behaviors can help you figure out if you’re in an unhealthy or dangerous relationship. Many times, these behaviors are used to gain power or control and can have a negative impact on your well-being or day to day life. In some cases, these unhealthy behaviors can escalate to violence. If you feel like something might be off in your relationship, trust your gut and get help.

 

INTENSITY

Having really extreme feelings or over-the-top behavior that feels like too much. Examples are rushing the pace of a relationship, always wanting to see you and talk to you, and feeling like someone is obsessed with you.

JEALOUSY

An emotion that everyone experiences, jealousy becomes unhealthy when someone lashes out or tries to control you because of it. Examples can be getting upset when you text or hang out with people your partner feels threatened by, accusing you of flirting or cheating, being possessive over you or even going so far as to stalk you.

MANIPULATION

When a partner tries to influence your decisions, actions or emotions. Manipulation is not always easy to spot, but some examples are convincing you to do things you wouldn’t normally feel comfortable with, ignoring you until they get their way, and using gifts and apologies to influence your decisions or get back in your good graces.

ISOLATION

Keeping you away from friends, family, or other people. Examples can be when your partner makes you choose between them and your friends, insisting you spend all your time with them, making you question your own judgement of friends and family, and making you feel dependent on them for money, love or acceptance.

SABOTAGE

Purposely ruining your reputation, achievements or success. Examples can be making you miss work, school or practice, keeping you from getting school work done, talking about you behind your back or starting rumors, and threatening to share private information about you.

BELITTLING

Making you feel bad about yourself. Examples can be calling you names, making rude remarks about who you hang out with, your family or what you look like, and making fun of you – even if it’s played off as just a joke.

GUILTING

Making you feel guilty or responsible for your partner’s actions. Examples can be making you feel responsible for their happiness, making you feel like everything is your fault, threatening to hurt themselves or others if you don’t do as they say or stay with them, pressuring you to do anything sexual you’re not comfortable with.

VOLATILITY

Unpredictable overreactions that make you feel like you need to walk on eggshells around them or do things to keep them from lashing out. Examples can be mood swings, losing control of themselves by getting violent or yelling, threatening to hurt you or destroy things, and making you feel afraid of them. This can also be lots of drama or ups and downs in a relationship.

DEFLECTING RESPONSIBILITY

Making excuses for their behavior. Examples can be blaming you, other people or past experiences for their actions, using alcohol or drugs as an excuse, using mental health issues or past experiences (like a cheating ex or divorced parents) as a reason for unhealthy behavior.

BETRAYAL

When your partner acts differently with you versus how they act when you’re not around. Examples can be lying to you, purposely leaving you out or not telling you things, being two-faced, acting differently around friends, or cheating while in a relationship with you.

 

 

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Healthy relationships are ones that bring out the best in you. Even though no relationship is perfect, healthy relationships make you feel good almost all of the time and generally bring you up and not down. Here are some characteristics and behaviors of a healthy relationship. Keep in mind that with all of these behaviors, there’s a threshold for when it becomes unhealthy. For instance, loyalty is great, but at a certain point it can be unhealthy if you are being loyal to a partner who continuously disrespects you. At the end of the day, the below characteristics in a healthy relationship make you feel confident and supported.

COMFORTABLE PACE

You and your partner allow the relationship to happen at a pace that feels comfortable for both of you. Often times when you begin dating someone, you may feel that you’re spending all of your time with them because you want to – that is great! But be sure that nothing feels imbalanced or rushed in the relationship. In a healthy relationship, nobody pressures the other to have sex, make the relationship exclusive, move in together, meet their family and friends, get married, or have a baby.  When you do choose to take these steps, you both feel happy and excited about it—no mixed feelings.

HONESTY

Being truthful and open with your partner. It’s important to be able to talk together about what you both want. In a healthy relationship, you can talk to your partner without fearing how they’ll respond or if you’ll be judged. They may not like what you have to say, but a healthy partner will respond to disappointing news in a considerate way.  Some examples are having good communication about what you both want and expect and never feeling like you have to hide who you talk to or hang with from your partner.

INDEPENDENCE

Having space and freedom in your relationship to do you. Examples are when your partner supports you having friends and a life outside of your relationship and not needing to be attached at the hip or know every little detail about your life.

RESPECT

If respect is present in your relationship, your partner will value your beliefs, opinions and who you are as a person. Examples are complimenting you, supporting your hard work and dreams, not trying to push or overstep your boundaries, and sticking up for you.

EQUALITY

You and your partner have the same say and put equal effort into the relationship (instead of feeling like one person has more say than the other). Examples are feeling like you are heard in your relationship or feeling comfortable speaking up, making decisions together as opposed to one person calling all the shots, and equally compromising on decisions in your relationship that make the other person feel important or respected.

COMPASSION

Feeling a sense of care and concern from your partner and knowing that they will be there to support you, too. If you’re in a healthy relationship, your partner will be kind to you, they will understand and be supportive of you when you’re going through tough times, and they will lend a helping hand in times of need.  An important caveat is that it has to be two-sided and displayed equally.

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

You and your partner are both responsible for your own actions and words. You both avoid putting blame on each other and own up to your actions when you do something wrong. Examples are when your partner genuinely apologizes for their mistakes, they avoid taking things out on you when they’re upset, and they try to make positive changes to better your relationship.

LOYALTY

When your partner is reliable and you feel confident that they have your back. Some examples are when your partner is respectful and faithful, sticks up for you, doesn’t take sides against you but helps you see the middle ground, and keeps your secrets safe.  In a healthy relationship, you don’t have to test the other person’s loyalty, because you just know it’s there.  Sometimes people say “we all make mistakes” and “nobody’s perfect” to make excuses for disloyalty.  If you find yourself saying that more than once, it’s a red flag that the relationship may not be healthy.

COMMUNICATION

If you can talk to your partner about anything—the good and the bad—this is a sign of a healthy relationship. Examples are when you feel like your partner will listen to you when you need to talk and that they are open to discussing further and when you don’t feel judged for your words or opinions.

180’s hotline is available for any teen who would like to speak with a counselor. The hotline is confidential and anonymous. 1-888-843-9262

 

Credit: Relationships 101: Know the Basics, One Love Foundation, Bronxville NY

Creative Arts Therapist

The Amanda’s Easel Program of 180 TURNING LIVES AROUND Inc in Monmouth County is seeking a Creative Arts Therapist (art, play, drama, or movement) to be part of our therapeutic interdisciplinary team.  Responsibilities include implementation of individual, group and family sessions, intakes, assessments and comprehensive treatment plans with children ages 4-14 who are affected by family violence and trauma.
Master’s degree in a Creative Arts Therapy discipline is required and must be board certified/licensed or certification/license eligible.
One to three years’ experience working with children and families who have experienced domestic violence or other forms of trauma is strongly preferred.  Bilingual is desired. Position is 25 hrs/wk. Candidate must be available to work two to three afternoon/ evening  per week, with scheduling flexibility.
Benefits including medical/dental and vacation/sick time.
Please contact Program Coordinator Cynthia Westendorf LPC ATR-BC at cindiw@180nj.org

180 Responds to Victims of Stalking

Definition: Stalking is a pattern of behavior that may cause fear or concern fear for the person who is the focus of the behavior.

Stalking is a crime that frequently predicts and co-occurs with physical and sexual violence. 180 Turning Lives Around can help guide you and give you the tools you need to respond to the crime of stalking. Stalkers use many tactics including: Approaching the victim or showing up in places when the victim didn’t want them to be there; making unwanted telephone calls;leaving the victim unwanted messages (text or voice); watching or following the victim from a distance, or spying on the victim with a listening device, camera, or GPS.

Common staking behaviors include:

  • Repeated calls, text messages, e-mails, or posts via social media
  • Following the victim or showing up where they are (e.g., near home, work, school, or other places the victim might frequent)
  • Using technology to track, find out and/or disseminate personal information about the victim
  • Threatening to hurt the victim and/or people they care about

Please reach out to us to learn more or talk about your experience, our Hotline is anonymous and confidential: 1-888-843-9262

Happy New Year! Put this date on your 2019 calendar!

With a nod to Anna’s Cuban roots, “HavANNA Nights” will be a party to remember! As we appreciate and recognize Anna’s 35 years of service to 180 Turning Lives Around, we reflect upon the many programs she has established and led for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Her leadership has guided nearly every local service available for victims and their children. Using nationally proven models in the field of domestic violence and sexual assault, her work has impacted thousands of survivors in Monmouth County. She has garnered the support of a vast number of volunteers and donors, as well as her dedicated staff of counselors and social workers. Anna’s 35 years of saving and changing lives in Monmouth County gives us all the reason to celebrate her at our May 3, 2019 event! 
Please plan to join us in her honor and help 180 continue our work of empowering individuals affected by domestic violence to find the strength and courage to turn their life around.
Invitation to follow!
  • Last year’s event was sold out. Early RSVP here!
  • Sponsorship information to follow.
  • Commemorative ad journal opportunities.