When abusers have guns, people die.

Our hearts are with Texas. 180 Turning Lives Around is mourning the loss of life in the most recent mass shooting. It is without hesitation that I am compelled to share with you two simple facts:
  • When abusers have guns, people are at a high risk of homicide.
  • Mass shooters often have a history of domestic violence – in fact nearly 60 percent of recent incidents.
The threads of domestic violence in the lives of these perpetrators are important to note:
Santa Fe High School, Texas – where 8 students and 2 teachers were killed, and where according to the mother of one of the victims, her daughter had rejected the killer’s advances for months.
Orlando Nightclub – where 49 were killed and 53 injured, the deadliest mass shooting in U.S. history, the perpetrator cruelly abused his former wife, isolating her from friends and family.
Parkland, Florida – before the mass shooter killed 17 students and teachers, he was abusive to his girlfriend, stalked her, abused animals, owned guns and was expelled from high school for fighting with his ex-girlfriend’s new boyfriend.
Planned Parenthood, Colorado Springs – where three individuals were shot to death, the killer beat and raped his wife and had been previously arrested.
Boston Marathon – before planting the bombs that killed three people and injured more than 260, the killer was arrested for beating his girlfriend.
Kansas – an hour and a half after receiving a restraining order stemming from a domestic violence complaint filed by his ex-girlfriend the murderer equipped with assault rifle and pistol killed three and injured 14.

 

And the list goes on. The statistics regarding DV and gun access are staggering. When an abusive partner has access to firearms, statistics show that domestic violence is more likely to turn deadly. According to research published in the American Journal of Public Health, the presence of a gun in domestic violence situations increases the risk of homicide for women by 500 percent. More than half of women murdered with guns are killed by family members or intimate partners.

Our commitment to empowering survivors of domestic violence to turn their life around is paramount. However, in light of the link we see between mass shooters and domestic violence, we also remain steadfast to advocating for laws that prohibit domestic abusers access to guns and we implore the community to immediately hold abusers accountable for their behavior.

Anna Diaz-White

Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

P.S. You can read more about the link between domestic violence and mass shootings in the articles we collected here:

Rumson-Fair Haven Regional High School Students Launch Special Project for 180 Turning Lives Around


 


Sydney Kaiman, a resident of Fair Haven, NJ and a Junior at Rumson-Fair Haven Regional High School has launched a project called “The Pampered Pillowcase” – whose mission is to provide local women in crisis a special gift to show them that they are supported by their community. Sydney adopted this project in the hopes of bringing comfort to women in Monmouth County who have fled domestic violence and who are staying with 180 Turning Lives Around at our emergency shelter. Sydney and her cadre of caring friends, collected donations from local businesses and residents so they could fill each pillowcase with items such as cozy pajamas and slippers, lotions and special beauty products. Each mother at 180’s Safe House received a personalized pillowcase with items sized especially for them just in time for Mother’s Day.

“180 Turning Lives Around is so grateful to this impressive group of young ladies who took the time to make the lives of those struggling in our community a little brighter this Mother’s Day. We know that these gifts will help to bring peace to the women in our shelter during a most trying time in their life.” said Lynn Lucarelli, 180 Director of Development.

 

For more information about 180, or if you are in need of our free and confidential services, please contact our 24 Hour Domestic Violence Hotline: 888-843-9262 or our 24 Hour Sexual Violence Hotline: 888.264.RAPE

For youth and teens in our community who are in need of any type of support, please contact our 2NDFLOOR Youth Helpline: 888.222.2228 or visit us at www.2ndfloor.org


ABOUT 180’s SAFE HOUSE

When domestic violence forces individuals, children and families to leave their homes, 180’s Safe House is a safe haven. The Safe House, situated in a confidential Monmouth County location, can accomodate 45 individuals for aproximately 60-90 days. There are 12 family bedrooms with private baths, a communal kitchen and dining and living areas as well as laundry facilities. The Safe House has a teen “rec” room and two creative arts therapy studios where childen are counseled. A computer and library resource room provide needed space for homework and job search activities. An outdoor playground and garden make the Safe House feel like a home.


ABOUT 180 TURNING LIVES AROUND

180 Turning Lives Around is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization whose mission is to empower survivors and families affected by domestic violence and sexual assault to find the courage and strength to turn their lives around. 180 supports this mission through 24/7 hotlines – including the 2NDFLOOR Youth Helpline, counseling, legal advocacy, emergency shelter and transitional housing and art, play and music therapy for children.

180’s 2ND FLOOR YOUTH HELPLINE

Dear Friends of 180,

As a mother myself, I know that our children and young teens don’t always turn to a parent when they need advice or are having challenges as they grow up. It’s not uncommon for young people to have obstacles that leave them feeling uncertain as they transition into adulthood. However, the reality is that children and teens need many options and supportive resources including their parents. While we may not be able to change the things that make our young people stressed, 180 Turning Lives Around is making it easier for them to get help. I encourage all parents to share with their child this information regarding 180’s 2NDFLOOR Youth Text and Helpline and make sure our app is on their phones.

 2NDFLOOR’s phone number to call or text is 888.222.2228. The 2ND FLOOR app can be downloaded for free at the App Store. 2NDFLOOR is accredited by the American Association of Suicidology and is a confidential and anonymous phone and text helpline which is available 24 hours, 7 days a week to New Jersey youth and young adults. 2NDFLOOR helps youth find solutions to the problems they face ranging from family struggles and bullying, to child abuse and suicide. 2NDFLOOR ensures that there is a safe place to turn regardless of the issue. We receive calls, texts and outreach daily with concerns and questions such as the following:
“I can’t help feeling so depressed.”
“My girlfriend mentioned wanting to kill herself.”
“I’m being bullied on social media.”
“I wish that I was this happy on the inside.”
“I think my friend might be doing drugs.”

At 2NDFLOOR there is always a caring and professionally trained person ready to listen. We ensure a safe exchange in an environment where youth are comfortable communicating whether by text messaging or phone. Youth have many options to access our help including:

May 17, 2018 is International Child Helpline Day. This year the focus is on using technology to support more youth worldwide. At 2NDFLOOR, technology is something we use every day to make getting help easy and accessible.
With the support of our community we plan to continue using technology to support and help youth as they navigate their world. If you would like to learn more about 2NDFLOOR, volunteer, or make a donation to support our youth outreach in our schools and community, please contact us here.

Sincerely,

Anna Diaz-White

Executive Director

180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

Happy Mother’s Day ~ Honor Mom with a daffodil planted at our Safe House

As we celebrate Moms and Motherhood, thousands of mothers and mothers-to-be across the country will spend Mother’s Day in a domestic violence shelter like ours here in Momouth County. In addition to a safe place to sleep at night, survivors of domestic violence who are mothers, have a number of other child-related needs such as children’s counseling, safety planning, childcare and schooling arrangements. We continually strive to meet these needs for survivors and their children and seek the support of our community in doing so. Here’s a unique way to help 180 sustain these important services while honoring a special woman this Mother’s Day.
In recognition of your mother, or a mother-figure who has made a difference in your life, please consider a gift to 180 this Mother’s Day and in return, 180 will plant a daffodil at the Safe House to brighten the lives of families staying with us. We will send an acknowledgement to the recipient stating that a charitable contribution has been made and that a daffodil has been planted in their honor. All best wishes for a peaceful and blessed Mother’s Day and thank you in advance for your gift which will brighten the lives of domestic violence survivors and their children. Thank you for your consideration! 

180 Turning Lives Around + New Jersey Coalition to End Sexual Assault (NJCASA) – Hereos for A Safer Garden State!

Join “Team 180” and hundreds of activists, allies, community members and heroes as we walk towards safer communities in the Garden State! The New Jersey Coalition to End Sexual Assault (NJCASA) is hosting this event as a way to support statewide social change efforts to ensure survivors are supported and affirmed. Together 180 Turning Lives Around stands with NJCASA! 180 will have a table at this event – come check-in and visit us before the event gets started! Our Team Captain is Sue Levine, Program Coordinator, Victim Support Services and can be reached at SusanL@180nj.org

Check-in begins at 8:00 AM
in Asbury Park at Convention Hall
(located at corner of 5th and Ocean Avenue)
Event begins at 9:00 AM

Please register to be part of “Team 180” here:
(click icon above to register)