Vision Board & Meditation Workshop

Envision the New Year with intention! Join 180’s Lauren Lormel, LCSW, for a restorative workshop to start the New Year! Let go of 2018 and welcome your hopes and aspirations for 2019! This trauma sensitive workshop is free and open to anyone 18 and older who has experienced domestic or sexual violence past, or present. 

Tuesday, January 8, 2019

6:00-7:30 P.M.

Space is limited.

For more information, and to register, please contact Elisse, at 732-264-4360 

We will be at the Safe House this holiday.

Caroline’s Story


When I told Ryan and Megan that this holiday would be different, little did I know how resilient my little ones would be. I had such conflicting emotions about spending the holidays at 180’s Safe House. Ryan’s letter to Santa made me cry, yet I keep telling myself that leaving my abuser and the violence in our lives, was the best gift I could ever give to my children. In my heart I know that never again will I have to worry about our safety, hide in fear or cover my bruises; we will live in peace as every family should. The caring staff at the Safe House is helping me to start anew. With a restraining order now in place, we will stay at the Safe House through the holidays and into the first month of the new year. The kids and I have begun art therapy with 180 counselors and I have started to focus on seeking a new job and finding a permanent place to live. Together, we will figure out a new and wonderful way of life – free from abuse and full of hope. Safety, peace, courage and hope….these are our gifts this holiday season.


 


Dear Friends of 180,

For Ryan’s Mom and so many of our clients like her, escaping an abusive relationship has additional challenges during the holiday season when emotions tend to be heightened, and the imagery of a “perfect” family is in sharp contrast to a victims’ own reality. A parent’s worry of not being able to provide a good holiday for their children, is a feeling almost as torturous as the abusive relationship they are fleeing. Fearing for one’s safety means making a change that will last a life-time–even if it means leaving the abuser during the holiday season.
Every individual deserves a loving, safe home during the holidays and every day of the year. Thousands of victims of domestic violence turn to us each year for support through our hotlines, counseling, court assistance and more. In fact, we have never had an empty safe house during the Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah or New Year’s seasons. This 2018 holiday is no different and 180 is blessed and thankful to have your support.
In the spirit of giving, and fulfilling wishes, we hope you will consider a financial gift to support 180 this holiday season. Your donation, no matter the size, will be used year-round to help empower survivors to have the strength and courage to turn their life around. Thank you for your consideration this winter.
With all of our best wishes to you and your family for a healthy and safe holiday, and a very happy new year,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

Please considering supporting 180 this holiday season by donating through the link above. If you would like to discuss your gift, or provide a credit card over the phone, please contact Lynn Lucarelli, Director of Development at 732-264-4360 ext. 4230 or email: lynnl@180nj.org

Yoga for Survivors

HOLIDAY STRESS REDUCTION WORKSHOP:
Mind/Body Strategies For Self Care
FREE WORKSHOP
Hosted by:
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc. and Elevate Yoga & Wellness
Lead by Janet Lee, LCSW and Jamie Hanley, LPC ERYT 500
Take 90 minutes out of your busy week to learn relaxation techniques and gain healthy coping skills. Experience a gentle and restorative yoga practice to quiet the nervous system using guided imagery and breathing practices. This trauma-sensitive workshop is open to anyone age 18 and up who has experienced domestic or sexual violence, past or present. Participants will leave feeling renewed with a self-care plan to use during the holidays and beyond. Manage stress and thrive this holiday season!
Two dates offered in Hazlet:
Tuesday, December 11th, 11:30 a.m. – 1:00 p.m.
Friday, December 14th, 6:00 p.m. – 7:30 p.m.
Please call Janet to register and receive more information: 
732-264-4360 x.4281
       

Help 180 Answer The Call

Today is “Giving Tuesday” and I invite you to participate.
All gifts received this Giving Tuesday will support one of our most highly utilized programs – our 24 hour Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotlines. The hotlines are always available and are staffed by highly trained professionals in the field of domestic and sexual violence and human trafficking. Everyday, 180 is answering calls and helping to guide victims to safety.
Nearly 3,000 calls are made to 180 annually. The hotlines are often the entryway into additional agency services including: emergency shelter at our safe house, counseling, legal and court advocacy, and programs for children such as our Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapy program or the 2NDFLOOR Youth Text and Helpline.
Please donate in honor of Giving Tuesday and your gift will help us answer the call in a victim’s moment of crisis. Your support at any level makes a difference!
P.S: As you probably already know, Giving Tuesday is a global day of giving fueled by the power of social media and collaboration. Giving Tuesday kicks off the charitable season, when many focus on their holiday and end-of-year giving. Thank you for including 180 Turning Lives Around in your giving plans this year!

New York City’s Best “Band of Bankers” To Perform 15th Anniversary Benefit Concert for 180 Turning Lives Around

This talented rock and roll “band of bankers” known to friends and colleagues as “Aged Inventory”, was formed by a group of employees at Credit Suisse to play at their company holiday party nearly 14 years ago. Since then, the band has played over 60 shows, raising nearly two million dollars for over a dozen charitable causes. 180 Turning Lives Around is thrilled to have been selected the beneficiary of their 15th Anniversary Concert taking place on Thursday, November 29, 7:00 PM at (Le) Poisson Rouge located at 158 Bleecker Street, NYC.

Tickets are $25 and can be purchased here.

Guitarist for Aged Inventory and Fair Haven, NJ resident, Steve Kaiman, became aware of 180 Turning Lives Around through his daughter, Sydney, a student at Rumson Fair Haven Regional High School who led a volunteer project for women staying at 180’s Safe House. The project, “The Pampered Pillowcase” delivered necessities, gifts and special beauty products to safe house moms just in time for Mother’s Day.
“It was time for the band to select this year’s beneficiary and everything about 180’s mission resonated with us. After learning what my daughter and her friends did for the women staying at 180’s shelter, we felt compelled to do our part and help raise some money to help 180 deliver services to individuals in crisis due to domestic and sexual violence. 180 also runs a teen support text and helpline called, “2NDFLOOR” which is so important and needed in these times. We are excited to perform and do what we can for such a worthy cause.” said Steve Kaiman.
Funds will be generated through ticket sales and donations. Also, a few surprises are in store the evening of the event, including a Live Auction which gives concert goers the chance to bid on two exclusive tickets to one of Bruce Springsteen’s final shows, Springsteen on Broadway on Friday, December 7.

For more information about the concert, or if you can’t attend and would like to make a donation in support of 180 Turning Lives Around, please contact Lynn Lucarelli, Director of Development at lynnl@180nj.org.

 

Holiday Wish List – Help Make the Holidays Happen for our Families

Happy Holidays! 
The Holiday Boutique is an event for 180 families where gifts are donated and families are invited to complimentary “shop” for their children.
(click above for link to wish list)

Donations for the Holiday Boutique are to be dropped off at the Cullen Center on Thursday, December 13 between 9:00 – 3:00 pm. Email Amanda at amandaf@180nj.org  to let us know what you are bringing. If you have already been in touch with Amanda regarding your donations, no need to reply again here. Thank you so much!


We are thrilled to host our annual Holiday Boutique at a new location this year and are appreciative to Hazlet Township for generously hosting us at the James Cullen Center, in the Hazlet Municipal Complex, 1776 Union Avenue, adjacent to Veterans Park. We are confident that the new space will improve logistics including the ease of off-loading gifts and deliveries and give us more space to accomodate a growing list of 180 families.
Please save the dates and times as noted below and consider signing up for a volunteer opportunity this holiday season.

 

Thursday, December 13: 
DONATION DROP OFF DAY & SHOP SET UP
(We are requesting and encouraging all donations be delivered to The Cullen Center on this day between the hours of 9:00 A.M and 3:00 P.M)
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, December 17*,18*, 19
FAMILY SHOPPING DAYS
*evening hours available
Wednesday, December 19
LAST SHOPPING DAY / CLEAN UP & EVENT CLOSE OUT

 

180 welcomes college students and teens (accompanied by an adult) on Set Up and Close Out Days, 12/13 and 12/19. We are happy to provide letters documenting volunteer hours worked and can distribute these to your student after they complete their volunteer shift. During each volunteer shift, snacks and refreshments will be provided.

 

The Prevalence of Sexual and Domestic Violence within the LGBT+ Community.

During October’s National Domestic Violence Awareness Month especially, 180 Turning Lives Around calls upon our community to become informed about the prevalence of sexual and domestic violence within the LGBT+ community. In fact, this Thursday, October 11 marks the 30th Anniversary of National Coming Out Day. As a result of the 500,000 person March on Washington DC for Lesbian and Gay Rights 30 years ago, Coming Out Day was created by two activists, Rob Eichberg and Jean O’Leary. They realized that coming out is a basic tool for progress. The day encourages all LGBT+ people and their allies to stand proud of who they are and to fight for a more equal tomorrow.
We at 180, cultivate a safe, confidential, and empowering environment for the unique needs of LGBTQ+ victims of sexual and domestic violence. Through providing free supportive services including confidential 24/7 hotlines, trained advocates who assist victims by providing emotional support and resources, as well as a safe house, and a Family Justice Center, LGBT+ victims will be given the guidance and care they need. Often times LGBTQ+ people are afraid to come out for a variety of reasons. They may fear what employers, friends, family or their places of worship might think of who they are. People who are in abusive relationships find themselves further isolated. Abusers will use this fear to take power and control over their partners. Victims often feel at a loss as to where to go for help.
Abusive partners in LGBT+ relationships exhibit the same behaviors as abusive partners in heterosexual relationships – to gain and maintain power and control through physical, sexual, verbal abuse and/or financial control and isolation. However, in LGBT+ relationships, partners who abuse may exploit societal factors that compound the complex issues a survivor faces in making safety decisions or how to leave an abusive relationship. There are many barriers to reporting domestic violence and sexual violence that can include: a victim feeling like they are already under attack for their sexual orientation/sexual identity, threats of being outed, fear that their HIV status may be exposed, the belief that the abuse was their fault, fear of not being taken seriously or believed because of their sexuality, child custody/visitation issues and concern that providers are not informed of issues that are unique to the LGBT+ community. 180 advocates against this and all forms of oppression and we continuously look to build safety for all survivors.
180 Turning Lives Around is passionate about providing an extensive array of services for individuals affected by sexual and domestic violence, regardless of sexual identity, gender, or sexual orientation. Through on-going professional development, staying current on LGBT+ healthcare concerns, and conducting a continuous dialogue withLGBT+ community leaders, 180 cultivates a safe, confidential, and empowering environment for all victims of sexual and domestic violence.
I encourage you to visit our website to learn more about 180 and all of our programs and services. For more information on National Coming Out Day please visit: https://www.hrc.org/resources/national-coming-out-day Additionally, if you would like to learn even more, the Human Rights Campaign has excellent resources regarding violence in the LGBT+ community.
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

The Danger Assessment

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month and 180 Turning Lives Around is grateful for this month-long recognition which helps draw awareness, support and engagement with our mission.
Each day our hotline rings with calls from victims of domestic violence who have confronted their fears of retaliation and taken that courageous step to get help for themselves and their family.  Callers like Elizabeth*, explaining through her tears, that she and her daughter had been living in their car for the last few days since fleeing her abusive husband’s death threats.  He had come home drunk and threatened to kill her, throwing her against the wall.  Wearing only their pajamas and running out in the middle of the night, she wasn’t sure where to turn.  A call to the police lead her to finding 180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.  It wasn’t the first time he’d terrorized her but she vowed it would be the last.  Drumming up all her courage, she told her story to 180’s hotline counselor who listened with compassion and understanding.  “You don’t have to do this alone, we’re here to help you”.
During calls like these, staff who are trained and certified in administering Johns Hopkins University’s Danger Assessment tool, discuss factors that may determine a victim’s level of danger and risk of lethality.  The days and months following a victim leaving her abuser is often the most dangerous for her so a Safety Plan is discussed to address her safety and well-being in the immediate future. Should she decide to come in for counseling, these tools are elaborated upon and plans for her next steps put in place.
For Elizabeth, and thousands like her each year, 180 is a beacon of hope that helps individuals empower themselves and find the courage and strength to turn their lives around.  Each year, more than three million victims in the United States are abused by their intimate partners with more than 1,200 killed by their abusers.  These victims of homicide or attempted homicide are often unaware prior to the attack that their lives are in danger.  The Danger Assessment tool is just one critical step we take in working with domestic violence survivors to help assure their safety.
We thank you for taking the time to read this and to understand one aspect of our work with survivors.  We appreciate your support of our mission which makes this work possible.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.
*To protect confidentiality, client name has been changed.
P.S. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month and to help raise awareness in Monmouth County, please consider forwarding this message to individuals in your network. 

A Message from 180’s Executive Director

As you know, sexual assault has been in the news over the past many weeks, this time during the confirmation hearings for Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh.  While we are not going to weigh in on the political tenor of the hearings, we do know that survivors of sexual assault in our community have been reaching out to 180 as the hearings have triggered memories of their own sexual assault.
Every time sexual assault and rape is in the headlines, it opens up a national conversation about these crimes. From kitchen tables to offices, sometimes heated discussions occur, and more and more survivors courageously come forward with their own stories of rape and assault.
At 180, we’ve been working with sexual assault survivors for over 42 years, and here are some things we know from national crime victim data:
—- One out of six women and one out of thirty-three men report being victims of attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.
—- Females ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.
—- Law enforcement officials recognize that sexual assaults/rapes are among the most under-reported crimes, and false reports are rare.
—- Survivors often tell no one about their assault.
—- Trauma can affect survivor’s for years after the assault.
—- These crimes are often not witnessed by others.
If you are a survivor of sexual assault or know someone who is suffering with the after-effects of an assault, you should know that help is available 24/7 by calling our hotline: 1-888-264-RAPE.
Please see our website www.180nj.org for more information about our comprehensive services for sexual assault survivors, to learn about New Jersey’s Sexual Violence Protection Order, and what to do if you are assaulted, as well as how to support someone you know who shares their experience of a sexual assault with you.
We hope that shining a light on the crime of sexual assault and rape will lead to a greater understanding that we all need to do more in order to stop these crimes from occurring. 180 will continue to help survivors heal and fight for justice, and advocate for a society where these crimes no longer take place.
Thank you.
Sincerely,
Anna Diaz-White
Executive Director
180 Turning Lives Around, Inc.

180’s Amanda’s Easel Exhibit to be hosted by The Jon Bon Jovi Soul Kitchen, Red Bank – October 17, 2018

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and we have a very special evening planned to raise awareness about domestic and sexual violence in Monmouth County.
I hope you will join us on Wednesday, October 17, 2018 from 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. at the Jon Bon Jovi Soul Kitchen in Red Bank, NJ for 180’s Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapies Exhibit, “Rock and River: Obstacles and Flow In Survival.” All community members are invited to join us. This event is kindly hosted once again by our friends at the Soul Kitchen and requires no entry fee; RSVP at amandaf@180nj.org
The theme for this year’s project focuses on the concept of river and rocks. Depicted through the use of natural elements like water, rock, pebbles and stones, the ebb and flow of life symbolize the recurrent or rhythmical pattern, of life’s journey. Like a ripple in seemingly still water, or a quickly changing current that seems to carry us in a different direction, our ability to be resilient, strong and willing to change is part of our growth and healing. Using this two-sided metaphor, participants have used rocks and other found natural objects to create their personal vision and perspective of how change and obstacles have influenced their life journey through domestic violence. The metaphor of life’s journey being like the river that flows through obstacles and challenges yet never gives up, is significant in the fight against family violence.
We are so pleased to once again partner with our friends at the JBJ Soul Kitchen who have generously hosted us for many years, to showcase this artwork. After this initial showing, the exhibit will travel around Monmouth County at colleges, libraries, and schools to continue the conversation, outreach and awareness efforts.
For further information, or to showcase this exhibit at your location, please contact Cindi Westendorf, Program Coordinator of 180’s Amanda’s Easel Creative Arts Therapies